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How I Transformed Toxic Positivity To a Healthy State of Emotional Well-Being
During a record hot day in Tennesee, I discovered how a monochromatic positivity practice wouldn't bring me joy or peace of mind.
"Maybe I'm sad today. Maybe there are eight different reasons I can be sad today. Maybe some of them are important, and some aren't," says New York Times Bestselling Author Mark Manson.
"But I get to decide how important those reasons are — whether those reasons state something about my character or it's just one of those sad days," he continued in his blog Life Advice That Doesn't Suck.
Most of us would love to live in a safe world with happy, smiling faces and an ice cream shop on every corner. But life doesn't always come with sprinkles and a cherry on top. Sometimes ice cream drips down your arm while your waffle cone limps in 104-degree weather.
As you clean what has become a sticky mess, your overall state of being may be joyful, peaceful, and happy, but at that moment, you're frustrated.
And maybe that's okay.
When the Power of Positivity Becomes Poisonous
So, I had a bad day. And instead of admitting I was frustrated, I pretended everything was, as I love to say, "Cool."
