How to Be Unforgettable

Do something every day that creates a meaningful impact.

Matt Lillywhite
Nov 18, 2020 · 4 min read
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Pretty much everyone wants to leave a lasting impression on someone’s life. They want each interaction with their friends and family to be exciting and extremely memorable. The only problem? They have absolutely no idea how to start.

If you’re anything like my past self, you can relate. Perhaps your social life is good, but not great. Maybe you want to improve the quality of your relationship, but don’t have a clue what to do. Whatever situation you’re in, don’t worry — there is a solution.

If you want to make yourself unforgettable, a great way to begin is by creating a meaningful impact in the lives of your loved ones. After all, they will always remember what you did and how much you care about them.

Here are three things you can do to make yourself unforgettable:

Be Radically Honest. It’s Better Than Lying.

“Honesty is a very expensive gift. Don’t expect it from cheap people.” — Warren Buffet

Although honesty might be uncomfortable in the short-term, it’s much better to have a strong relationship built on truth instead of lies.

Think about it. How would you act if someone continually lied to you because they were afraid of hurting your feelings?

Chances are, you wouldn’t appreciate it. Trust is a vital element of any healthy friendship or relationship. And if that’s gone, it’s difficult to confide in others during moments of adversity. Quoting an article written by Melanie Greenberg in Psychology Today:

“Respect and intimacy are the foundation on which loving relationships are built. Without such safety and connection, there can be no trust; without trust, we lose the ability to be playful, spontaneous, and joyful. The following are common issues in relationships that, if unaddressed, can kill love and happiness.”

Sure, the truth can be uncomfortable. But if your loved ones always have your best interests at heart, you’ll still respect them due to a unique ability to remain honest in any given situation.

So if you want to make yourself unforgettable, treat other people how you’d like to be treated. Stay true to your word and follow through on anything you promise to do for other people. The effect it’ll have on every single one of your relationships is profound.

Listen Intently To Everything They Have To Say.

“We have two ears and one mouth so that we can listen twice as much as we speak.” — Epictetus

Do you hate it when people don’t listen to you during a conversation? Chances are, your response will be something along the lines of “yes, of course, it sucks.”

Which is why it’s important to listen intently to other people. When you genuinely care about what other people have to say during a discussion, they’ll probably want to reciprocate.

The other day, I had a phone call with a close friend in Italy. At the end of our conversation, she said that I “was an excellent listener. It’s rare to find people who listen well. A lot of people just want to respond.”

That statement got me thinking. She’s right. Most people hear what you say but don’t listen. Instead, they come up with a response and then wait for an opportunity to speak again.

Don’t be like most people. Take a genuine interest in the other person. Show that you care about what they have to say. Implementing this strategy all the time will certainly help you to improve the quality of your relationships.

Contribute Something To Every Conversation.

“The quality of your life will be determined by the quality of your contribution. When you work to improve the lives of others, your life improves automatically.” — Kurek Ashley

The world is filled with people who prefer to talk about themselves. As Samantha Boardman writes in Psychology Today:

“Talking about oneself activates the same areas of the brain that light up when eating good food, taking drugs, and even having sex. Simply put, self-disclosure is gratifying. It gives us a neurological buzz.”

Stand out from everyone else by contributing something of value to every conversation. Impress others with your incredible ability to listen. Be curious about different points of view, and allow people to express how they feel.

For example, one of my favorite things to do is ask: “What does genuine happiness mean to you?” It’s an open-ended question that creates many opportunities for the conversation to expand into several different topics.

Don’t make the conversation all about you. That’s selfish. Instead, try to make it about them. Make each discussion an interesting experience for the other person. So once it’s over, they walk away thinking, “wow, that was incredible. I’ll never forget that beautiful moment with them.”

That’s how to make yourself unforgettable.


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