How to Consistently Come Up with the Best First Date Ideas

When you’re looking to authentically attract a compatible partner

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“It’s not where you are, but who you’re with…” — Dave Matthews

This applies to many of life’s situations.

On a first date, and early on in the dating process, however: where you go and what you do together displays subtle clues about you and your life. Just like how your outfit isn’t the most important thing on a date (unless you only date fashionistas), yet still sends signals about who you are.

At the start of a relationship, a potential partner will be taking in all of the information they can get about your compatibility. So the little that they have to go on counts.

Many collections of date ideas list specific places to go to — the park, a museum, quirky bar, etc — without accounting for compatibility. A favorite early question to ask on a dating app is “What did you do/are you up to at the weekend?”. It gives insight into what a potential partner does in their free time, and whether they are someone you would want to be with.

There will likely be some scenarios that even the most easy-going of dates aren’t comfortable with. Whether that’s a grungy club, meeting your friends straight away, or dinner at a…