How to Have a Stress-Free, Drama-Free Holiday Season

Five easy ways to keep the anxiety, stress, and arguments at bay.

Vanessa Torre
Nov 23, 2020 · 5 min read
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#1 — You do not have to accept an invitation just because it is offered.

There is nothing that is going to stifle a season of joy like an obligation. Let’s be clear on one thing: very few people are entitled to your time and your company. Keep that list short.

#2 — You do not have to honor every single tradition.

My first husband’s family had a Christmas morning tradition that involved homemade cinnamon rolls that were put together into the shape of a Christmas tree. There were maraschino cherries involved. The bright red kind.

#3 — Set boundaries and stick to them.

The holidays make everyone a little weird. There are all kinds of expectations and a myriad of behaviors that are unacceptable that should never be part of the holidays.

#4 — Give yourself grace and room for imperfection.

Please don’t mop your floors 18 times. No one is going to eat off the floor. That is what a table and plates are for. Cut yourself some slack and don’t feel like you have to spend the whole week before the holiday scrubbing every inch of your house. Do your best and let that be okay.

#5 — Give others some grace, as well.

Listen, we’re all doing our best right now. It’s not easy. Be understanding that everyone has had a really hard year. You may have family and friends that just can’t do it. Travel is not recommended right now and getting people together that haven’t seen each other in a while is not a smart idea.

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Vanessa Torre

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Flaming pinball, nerd, music lover, wine snob, horrible violin player. No, I won’t stop taking pictures of my drinks. vanessaltorre@gmail.com IG: vanessaltorre

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Vanessa Torre

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Flaming pinball, nerd, music lover, wine snob, horrible violin player. No, I won’t stop taking pictures of my drinks. vanessaltorre@gmail.com IG: vanessaltorre

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A community of people who are curious to find out what others have already figured out // Curious is a new personal growth publication by The Startup (https://medium.com/swlh).

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