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Hurting People Can’t Hear You

The problem isn’t a lack of empathy; it’s a surplus of hurt

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There’s this idea floating around that society has an empathy problem. It’s just one explanation given for why there’s such a strong divide between points of view. But I’ve decided lately that we don’t have an empathy problem. The problem is that we have a surplus of hurt — and hurting people simply can’t hear us.




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Crystal Jackson

Crystal Jackson

Former therapist. Author, Heart of Madison series. Poet.

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