The #1 Most Important Thing You Can Do to Live Life on Your Terms

It’s about time you prioritize.

Christopher D. Connors
Feb 27 · 4 min read
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It’s easy to get down. It’s easy to feel small. It’s easy to feel like your goal or your success is so far away when you haven’t yet completed “your masterpiece” or lived out the big plans you have for yourself. The path of least resistance is ALWAYS easy.

It’s when the going gets tough, when your day is so busy with work, family obligations, personal ambitions and B.S., that the picture somehow — some crazy way — gets clearer.

Maybe you know what I mean.

Let’s face it, you have a super busy life. Heck, you might be reading this article on your phone, the bus, at the intersection during your morning commute (just don’t spill your coffee!) or on your way to the restroom in between Zoom calls. You have tons of responsibilities. You’re fighting for ways to sift through the things that don’t matter — but still reign supreme on your daily calendar — to get to what you actually care about.

And despite your efforts, you still wonder if it’s worth it.

I can proudly tell you that it IS worth it, in case you care to know. Only a few years ago, I published my first book and it changed my life. Three years later, it’s given me the platform I desired to help change the world. But a significant accomplishment alone won’t give you the life you want.

No, it begins with self-discipline and freedom of your mind.

Timing is Everything

I started to realize the surest way to become successful is by starting to fight for time like never before. God, I know Steve Jobs and his many quotations are used everywhere — and maybe you’re sick of seeing them — but I believe the power of his words can change your life. When he said that time is our most precious commodity, it was a total game changer for me.

If you take nothing else from this article, know this: I’m just trying to add on to the words of a brilliant man: WHEN your time is limited, you manage to find the way to succeed and burst to the top of your chosen endeavor IF you have a burning desire and will to fight for your time and make it happen.

You start with your idea, back it with an incredible desire and passion, believe in it, put it into plan and then commit to action. Success and reaching goals is truly not that complicated. Now that I have two successful books making the rounds and experiencing success, I’ve had people say to me, “How did you do it? That’s remarkable!”

And it feels great. I’m not gonna lie.

But I can tell you — I don’t feel like the process was honestly that complicated. I’m not saying it was easy, but once it was meticulously planned out, once I mustered up the desire over days, months and years of my life to continue wanting it, then believing in myself and never accepting rejection, it just wasn’t that difficult.

There’s absolutely nothing too difficult for the power of the human mind. Study the lives of successful titans like Elon Musk, Oprah Winfrey, LeBron James and Beyonce Knowles. If you fixate on their end goals while trying to visualize and imagine your own success, you miss the point. Those superstars started winning the day they committed to a plan of unrelenting hope, persistence and belief in themselves.

Fight for Your Time

That indestructible force began overpowering their minds and turbocharging their dreams. It has carried them throughout their lives — through unbelievably time-crunched schedules, obligations and events.

Think of the people you respect most that you’ve gotten the opportunity to know. I bet those people fight for their time. They rely on values and principles that enable them to worry less, plan more and execute with clear minds and tons of self-control.

The most challenging part is not your lack of time. Even with a family, day job, personal responsibilities, and your ambition to live the life you want on your terms, you will find way. You’ll need to cut out distractions, probably some reality TV and certainly all the excuses in your vocabulary.

A busy schedule is not your worst enemy. It’s your best friend, once you commit to living the life you’ve always envisioned in your dreams.

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Christopher D. Connors

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Author, Executive Coach & Emotional Intelligence Speaker; Seen on Fox, ABC, CNBC, etc.; http://chrisdconnors.com

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Christopher D. Connors

Written by

Author, Executive Coach & Emotional Intelligence Speaker; Seen on Fox, ABC, CNBC, etc.; http://chrisdconnors.com

Curious

Curious

A community of people who are curious to find out what others have already figured out // Curious is a new personal growth publication by The Startup (https://medium.com/swlh).

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