The Theory That Explains All Your Failed Relationships
Could it really be this simple?
As a professional writer, I spend a lot of time researching articles. Some are ideas I’ve had that I want to follow up on while some are assignments I’ve been given. It’s interesting the personal revelations that come out of so much of my deep dive into various topics, particularly as it pertains to personal growth and healthy relationships.
If I’m honest, I haven’t had a lot of healthy relationships. I’ve attached myself to emotionally unavailable partners and even found myself in a relationship so toxic that it took me a year of unraveling it to figure out that the word I needed wasn’t toxic but abusive. I’m hardly the poster child for relationship goals.
Yet, I keep trying even though it often ends with me picking up the pieces of a broken heart. Perhaps, reading this, your theory is that the problem is me. In one way, that’s true. I’m responsible for my choices. But a theory about human behavior and early childhood development might just be behind every single one of my failed relationships — and yours, too.
My assignment is on attachment theory — what it is, how to determine your style, and even how to fix it. I’m a former therapist with a master's degree in Counseling. I know about attachment theory without the deep…
