What If You Didn’t Fear Joy?

Find the courage to let joy into your life.

Anthony Beckman
Nov 14, 2020 · 5 min read
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“Life will bring you pain all by itself. Your responsibility is to create joy.” Milton Erickson

After getting up early each morning to swim, bike, and run for months, I had done it. I’d completed a triathlon. Jolene and some of my training friends were at the finish line waiting for me. It was an intense day of overcoming obstacles and pushing myself to achieve something I had never done before. I expected to feel the joy of accomplishment. The reward for all the work.

Foreboding Joy

Brene Brown in her book, Daring Greatly, talks about foreboding joy, where we catch ourselves feeling joy but quickly turn to prepare for imminent disaster. We think to ourselves,

Impostor Syndrome

Imposter phenomena was first described in 1978 by psychologist Pauline Clance. People with this syndrome “experience intense feelings that their achievements are undeserved and worry that they are likely to be exposed as a fraud.” It has become a common experience reported by entrepreneurs. In a review article published in 2011, authors Sakaluku and Alexander found that

Minimizing accomplishments

Lastly, we distance ourselves from embracing the fullness of joy by minimizing the value of our accomplishments. We put in the work, follow through on the plan, and after accomplishing the task we shrug, “it was no big deal.”

Opening up space for joy

We can avoid these pitfalls. We owe it to ourselves to celebrate our success. We have earned them. Allowing yourself to experience the fullness of joy can increase the likelihood of finding success again.

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A community of people who are curious to find out what others have already figured out // Curious is a new personal growth publication by The Startup (https://medium.com/swlh).

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