Do you think ‘Happily ever after’ is overrated? Well, I do.
One of the most common notions of life that we see in movies and TV shows these days, is that the main character of the movie, the protagonist, is lost and clueless about life at the beginning of the show.
They are stuck in a rut and are really unhappy with the way things are going in their life and boom!
One day life opens the doors of happiness for them and they meet a person that they don’t really approve of in the beginning but are later surprised to see how happy they make them.
Now, suddenly their completely clueless life starts making sense and they magically get better at everything and start loving their life. But what’s a story without an antagonist; so here enters out antagonist who steals the happy ending from our protagonist. Now, our clueless protagonist has to buckle up and save the person who taught them to love their life so that they do not feel as miserable as they were before.
In the process of saving this person, they go through a lot of trouble, even face their worst fears and finally save the love of their life. Then they live happily ever after!
That’s one hell of a story. Can this happen in real life? Well, the answer is, no. Real life is more than just one protagonist, one antagonist, and one happy ending.
In real life, you come across many situations where you can choose to be the protagonist or the antagonist or anyone you want to be. There are too many choices and too many possibilities.
Between these possibilities and choices, there are just two questions you need to answer— Who are you? and Who do you want to be?
We all have many ideas and visions about who we want to be in the future. The answer to this very question is what drives our actions today. But did you ever stop to find out who you are today and acknowledge yourself? Though we claim to be self-aware and independent, we are all looking for someone else to find the answer to this question.
One reason for this is that since our childhood, we are conditioned to believe that no matter what you do, in the end, you need other people to validate you and your actions. Another is that you are sometimes too scared or ashamed to accept your true self and therefore want someone else to validate the image you built for yourself. While wanting to be a better version of yourself is progressive, it is also important to do it for yourself and not under the influence of people around you.
In the quest for the society’s approval and meeting their standards, we tend to focus so much on building our future-selves that we forget to appreciate who we are today and what we have today.
Though at times, we are made to feel that we need to be dependent on people around us because they will support us when we need them, the truth is that they can completely let you down no matter how pure their intentions are.
So, here’s a truth bomb for you: “No one is coming to save you!”. But you are going to be okay because you will find a way to save yourself.
Everyone experiences their share of highs and lows in life, no matter what. No one can control the way life treats them. Sometimes, you feel like you’re stuck in a rut and losing control over everything in your life. But there’s something that you can control, self-acceptance and self-love. It is about time we all realize and acknowledge the truth that we aren’t perfect and it’s okay to be so.
There can be many issues in your life that you do not talk about often but are fighting a silent battle with a smile on your face. We all have the potential to be the protagonist in our own book and it is our choice to choose ourselves over anyone else. As selfish as it may seem, we deserve the best of ourselves and we are our own ‘Knight in shining armor’.
It is time we accepted our flaws and give a pat on our shoulder for making it so far!