Comfort zones are created states of being that we use to comfort ourselves, find safety in or to lower our stress level. They can also just be zones where we are way too familiar and settled in the regularity of things. As humans, we all get comfortable with things such as a sofa, a room, a favorite meal, certain people, habits and even our very thoughts. For some of us, it is very difficult to leave our comfort zones. Any move to do so leads to us fighting tooth and nail and even rutting ourselves into a space that seems beneficial but can lead to mediocrity and self-injury.
Our comfort zone is something that is self-defining, and everyone has a different definition and perspective on this concept. For example, my current comfort zone consists of either working on my passion of writing, enjoying one of my many hobbies, playing with my grandchildren or being with my mentor, who is my best friend. Most of these activities are done as a solo venture, which most think is highly unhealthy because I choose to be solitary. But for me, the solitude serves a multitude of purposes. In my current comfort zone, I feel I am most productive and creative alone, but to my best friend and grandchildren, they may feel that I am more creative, expressive and productive when interacting with them.
Let me offer you a bit of a deeper personal example of what I am referring to.
In my earlier blog posts, I mentioned some of the life difficulties I had experienced and how I had gotten through some of those difficulties thanks to my spiritual endeavors. I discovered during the beginning of my spiritual journey, which so happened to coincide with the dying of a very unhealthy marriage, that I would have to move out of my then comfort zone and also grow up and into myself.
At that time and place, my comfort zone was being with someone that I didn’t love, working exorbitant amounts of hours, sleeping when and if I could and if my children weren’t pushing their teenage agendas or insomnia wasn’t visiting. Basically, I was in a deadly cycle of juggling life, instead of living it. While seeking peace, less drama, and less stress as part of finding my spiritual path, I discovered that I would have to make definitive motions to regain myself and my life. Not to mention, I would have to start moving into a healthier and fruitful environment.
During this period, I was attempting to establish a meditation practice, which I had no idea of what I was doing. (Go figure, I had limited time or sleep and began a meditation practice. OMG, LOL!!!) You can say that meditation was my second step out of my comfort zone. My first was deciding to seek and begin a spiritual journey. In those two actions, I felt I was making a move to revive my dying marriage and find some relief to my self-imposed workaholic phase. Little did I know I was working more on myself and my mental health.
As I worked towards following a spiritual path and developing a meditation practice, I began to realize that both were changing me. My meditation practice had me quieting myself, focusing myself to investigate me and my thought processes. Calming myself enough to find a solid and strong voice that I discovered I allowed to be drowned out and almost snuffed out by not only myself but by my stressors and the expectations of others.
It was when I began my meditation practice, which I had implemented when beginning my spiritual journey, and was something way out of my normal life and comfort zone, that I found myself. It was this stepping away from my norm that gave me the ability, space and time to reevaluate myself, my thoughts, the emotions and the complexities of those situation(s). For me, stepping outside of my comfort zone by beginning my spiritual journey and meditation practice led me to find that I needed to get out of the rut I was in and become more myself than what I was.
So, returning to the reason I am writing this post.
We all have comfort zones, but there must come a time when we should evaluate and reevaluate if our comfort zones are safe, productive and providing us growth. It is very important to know that stepping out of our comfort zone doesn’t make us evil people or even makes us the bad guy in someone else’s story. Stepping out of our comfort zone should be an exploration of self and bettering that individual. There should never be a stigma or mar against you if you want to better yourself, your situation or even your life. Leaving our comfort zones can help us in developing new skills, meeting new people or making new connections, can have us seeing ourselves and life in a totally new way, and even bring us closer to the Creator (whatever you believe). We were not created or put on earth to be still, sedentary or to be a follower to someone else’s leader. We were meant to develop and grow in a way that is right for us.
In the next post, I will be writing about ways you can step out of your comfort zone. Thank you for reading and supporting me.
Til then, may you always stay within your own light.