Dalma Perkins
May 27 · 6 min read
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In my last post, I discussed the importance of leaving your comfort zone. Today, we will explore the first two ways you can step out or leave your comfort zone.

So, here two ways you can step of your comfort zone:

- Reevaluate and purge belongings.

Okay, this may sound hard and harsh, but it really isn’t. This is something that most of us neglect to do on a regular basis due to our career demands, family life, and/ or having a fear that we will be missing out on or throwing out valuable items.

We all have items near at hand right now that we have yet to utilize, wear, read or put into its actual use. We often purchase things that we can’t live without or must have, and these items just end up as paperweights, time stamps or space holder in our homes, offices or even cars. (Yes, even in our cars.)

There is a benefit on reevaluating and purging such items. It not only frees up space, but it also releases the hold some items create when we purchase on impulse or as a substitute for at that moment emotions. In reevaluating and purging some of our belongings, we not only begin to free up home area space, but we also begin to move away from ruts in how we see ourselves.

This reevaluation and purging of our belongings can be cursory or as in-depth as we want it to be. It can start with a table or countertop and expand to a closet or an entire room. Let’s face it, how many coffee makers do we actually need in a home. And ladies, how many black dresses do have to own?

It is ok to look at all of your material belongings as mementos but realize that they can be just a replacement for a feeling or person.

In reevaluating and purging some of your belongings, think on the lines of will I use this today or tomorrow. If the answer is yes, keep it. If the answer is no, begin to sort those items into three piles: trash, donation and sell. Look, if you have clothing, electronics, books, etc., you have never used why not donate or sell it to someone that can actually use it. If the items are beyond help, replace it or trash.

So, how does this cause us to step out of our comfort zone? Well, how often do you look over the items in your home? See what I mean? You probably thought, “I don’t even know when was the last time I took an inventory of my room, apartment, home or car” …. Hello, can you say COMFORT ZONE! Let’s be honest, to even remove holey sheets, tatter towels and the million one grocery bags we have let built up is a start to leaving our comfort zone. Not to mention it is a way to minimize, downsize and clean out our personal areas. Maybe, taking this small step can help in taking that one step out of our comfort zone. And better yet, you may find you need a renovation or redecorating of your home.

- Reevaluating and purging the people around.

This is another point that will rub some rare, but believe me, it is a necessary evil.

Look, in this day in age, we become acquainted and involved with some not so nice, well-meaning or supportive people. Believe it or not, these individuals can be people you have known from childhood, grew up with, family, coworkers or significant others.

When reevaluating the people that make up your social, familial and love life, you must place yourself, emotions, and mental health first. Not everyone that you love and support will love and support you in the same manner that you offer to them. Some individuals are in your life because you were born into that family and really don’t have a choice in who your family members are. Others are in your life by your choice. And yet some come into your life because you have some means that they need or want to obtain.

To reevaluate by familial standards, most people feel that they are stuck with being the “go along to get along” or even “fake it to you make it” person in the family. Look, it happens, but realize that if you have family members that cause you to hurt, be in mental anguish or in unhealthy mental states, you are torturing yourself and that is assaulting not only yourself but your progress in life.

Believe it or not, some family members love to see others struggle, hurt or fail just because they have or want to keep a superior status or “better than you” attitude towards you. This is an ego issue and you should never allow yourself to be bullied or subject yourself to someone else’s self-image issues. Know that even family can be either let go, purged or handled with a long handle spoon when it comes to your mental and emotional health.

As for social and love life standards, this is harder because there are emotions, ties and status to look at.

For social or love life standards, you should always place yourself around individuals, male or female, that promote positivity, growth, upliftment, joy and a sense of moving to high levels as an individual or as a couple. These are the ideal individuals to keep.

It is those friends, acquaintances, coworkers, lovers, etc. that stress you out, cause undue and unnecessary drama and steal your triumphs to look as though they have more success then you that you may need to reevaluate and purge from your life.

Look, if you find yourself 8 times out of 10 defending yourself for your beliefs, your standards or your choices that everyone else has congratulated you for, you have a toxic individual on your hands. If you feel drained, stressed out, or even uncomfortable with a certain person or people, it is time to purge them from your life. If you find yourself always giving and offering and never see reciprocation, it is a sign that it is time to replace this person or people with like-minded, encouraging and supportive people, period.

In the case of love life relationships, all of the above goes, but be sure that there aren’t other underlining causes to why your relationship has turned toxic and unsupportable. Remember, there is nothing wrong with seeking counseling if you are trying to keep a marriage together for all the right reasons. But there is also nothing wrong with moving on, if and when, the relationship isn’t what was, could or should be.

So, how does purging people from your life cause you to step out of your comfort zone? Basically, you are removing unneeded, unwanted and toxic individuals from your life and mental space, making room for new individuals with like minds, healthier attitudes and possibly better standards to enter and cause personal growth. In purging, we leave our comfort zones, which for some have been the same revolving pool of hurt and toxicity, for new horizons, moving us towards better levels of ourselves.

Let’s face it, life is too short and at times complicated to stay in a comfort zone that devalues us. We are creatures of habit, this is true, but sometimes habits, as well as comfort zones, can place us in an unhealthy position and burden us will situations and emotions that we don’t need or want. It is when we start to realize that we are hurting ourselves that things may have gone too far. Begin with reevaluating and listening to your instincts when you find that things aren’t right or that you are rutted. Know that your comfort zone(s) is not set in stone and can be changed to reflect you and your growth.

In the next post, we will explore two more ways to leave or step out of our comfort zones.

Once again, thank you for reading and supporting.

May you stay within your own light.

Dalma

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