How to NOT be Perfect in 8 Simple Steps
Are you ever sick of yourself? Like totally over your bullshit? Some days I can’t stand to hear myself talk.
Let me back up. I’m a positive person. Really. I am. I’m referring to perfectionism here.
A few weeks ago I heard a statement that woke me up.
“Perfectionism is a form of self-hatred.”
- I’m not good enough.
- I don’t know enough.
- I wish I was more like …
- Why can’t I do that?
I think those thoughts more often than I’d like to admit. They are not helpful. They don’t advance me as a human.
We are all doing the best we can and we are all okay. We are all right where we are supposed to be. I think the key is to learn from our habits, tendencies, confrontations, shortcomings.
Perfectionism is unconscious yet very intentional.
An experiment if you will, an exercise in noticing perfectionism and saying no …
- Just Do It. Seriously. Nike was on to something with that tagline. Stop thinking so much. Just do the thing you want to do. Fear is a liar. Don’t believe her.
- Value humanity over perfection. Recognize that no one is perfect, and no one expects you to be. Quirky people are fun. Interesting. Be unapologetically you!
- Try something new every day (or at least every week). Keep a running list for posterity’s sake. It doesn’t have to be something big and doesn’t have to take long. Just get out of habit. Food, exercise, different genre of reading, writing activity …
- Share yourself with others. Your words matter. The way you think may shake someone else up. Speak even if it scares you.
- Intentionally do an activity you know you’re not good at, at least once a month. Sing out loud. Tell jokes. Run a race. Try aerobics or zumba. (Yep those last two scare the crap out of me.)
- Laugh at yourself. Often. Tell stories about the times you laugh at yourself. Others will get a good laugh too.
- Stop waiting for the perfect time, place, set of prerequisites to do the thing you want to do. There is never a perfect time for anything.
- Get out of your head and into your body. Practicing embodiment takes us from thinking left brain into feeling right brain. I’ll share more on some of these exercises in the coming months. Stay tuned!
There you have it. Incorporate some (or all) of these ideas into your daily routine over the next month and let me know what sticks. Also, please share anything that scares the hell out of you. And do that first. You can thank me later.
Thanks for reading. Did you enjoy? Please tap the 💚 to recommend it to others. Namaste, Heather
Heather is a holistic health writer and yoga educator. She shares here daily as part of her personal writing practice — mostly lessons about embodied living, yoga and personal development. Cheers to a life well lived!