Anger Management
Anger is an emotion characterized by antagonism toward someone or something you feel has deliberately done you wrong. Anger can be a good thing. It can give you a way to express negative feelings, for example, or motivate you to find solutions to problems. But excessive anger can cause problems. Increased blood pressure and other physical changes associated with anger make it difficult to think straight and harm your physical and mental health.
There once was a little boy who had a bad temper. His father gave him a bag of nails and told him that every time he lost his temper, he must hammer a nail into the fence.
The first day the boy had driven 37 nails into the fence. Over the next few weeks as he learned to control his anger, the number of nails hammered daily, gradually dwindled down. He discovered it was easier to hold his temper than to drive those nails into the fence.
Finally, the day came when the boy didn’t lose his temper at all. He told his father about it and the father suggested that the boy now pulls out one nail for each day that he was able to hold his temper.The days passed and the young boy was finally able to tell his father that all the nails were gone.
The father took his son by the hand and led him to the fence. He said “you have done well, my son, but look at the holes in the fence. The fence will never be the same. When you say things in anger, they leave a scar just like this one.”
Moral: You can put a knife in a man and draw it out. It won’t matter how many times you say I’m sorry, the wound is still there. Make sure you control your temper the next time you are tempted to say something you will regret later.
The boy was now silent as he understood the gravity of the lesson which his wise father had tactfully taught him.
Friends and loved ones are special; they encourage you to succeed, stand by you when things go wrong, make you smile, share words of praise. With such people, its important to water your relationships with kindness and they will blossom more. You can scar them for life if you’re not careful with your lips. Sometimes we react in anger to hurt those who have harmed us, but we realize after all that we are being hurt ourselves.
A snake penetrated into a carpentry workshop. As it slipped, it passed over a saw and got slightly wounded. Suddenly, it turned and bit the saw, and biting the saw, the snake seriously got wounded in its mouth! Then not understanding what was happening and thinking that the saw was attacking “him,” it decided to roll around the saw to suffocate it with all its body by squeezing it with all its strength, but it ended up being killed by the saw!!!
In life it is better sometimes to ignore situations, ignore people, ignore their behaviors, their words. Sometimes it is better not to react so as not to suffer consequences that can sometimes be deadly or harmful. Do not let hate take over your life because love is stronger than anything.
Anger Problems Affect the Family
Anger control problems have a direct effect on those around you. In your family, having trouble controlling your anger makes communication difficult. People are afraid to talk to you and may even avoid talking to you for fear of your angry reaction, your behavior, or physical/verbal abuse. It affects how people relate to you. In addition, you are setting an example for children around you, so this behavior could be passed on as children see you as their role model.
Benefits of Anger Control
Controlling your anger will help you feel more in control and able to deal with various situations you face. You will learn how to deal with your feelings better and more effectively. In addition, you should experience improvements in relationships such as less fighting and better communication. You should feel better physically, feeling less stress and fewer physiological symptoms associated with anger. Feeling better and using your anger constructively will also allow you to focus your energies on things that are important to you, giving you a greater sense of accomplishment and purpose.
Techniques Can Use to Manage Anger
Exercise is a great way to help you manage anger. Engaging in physical activity stimulates the brain to release endorphins which cause feelings of euphoria and happiness. Next time you feel irritated, go out for a brisk walk, a jog, or go for a run. Find a healthy activity that works for you. Alternatives include strength training, yoga, and even hiking.
Treatment for Anger Control
The main treatment options are individual counseling or a group program. In individual counseling sessions, you will work with a psychiatrist, psychologist, counselor, or other mental health professional to identify sources of anger, behaviors your display, and any underlying experiences that may be contributing to your anger. You will learn techniques to control your anger, as well as ways to deal with past issues affecting you today. In a group program, you will participate in a class with others to learn about anger, its effect on you, ways to identify anger, and how to effectively deal with those feelings when you experience them.
Ways to Let Go of Anger and Live a Happier Life
1. Change negative thoughts to positive ones
2. Let it all out
3. Associate with positive people
4. Focus on self-love
5. Make a mental note not to add “hate” in the world
Anger and resentment are two of the most harmful emotions a person can have. They are destructive not only to the person themselves, but also to everyone around them. Fortunately, we don’t have to be slaves to these emotions. Do everything you can to let go of any anger you might have, and start living a happier, healthier lifestyle.
“Getting angry doesn’t solve anything”
