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Aditi Seth
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I. Who’s at the center?

Learning from our Healthy Gratitudes here

Consider Aditi writing on the suffering her Cat’s been put to:

…growing up with a dog took its toll on her when she mistook the street dogs to be as patient and cat-friendly as our Scruff. Needless to say she was horribly injured, to the point wherein the doctor almost had to amputate her leg.
… . A little handicapped in one leg but she made it. From that day on Scruffy was her guardian angel…

On reading her entire gratitude, you’ll see her dog’s heroism & her cat’s fortitude & her family’s tenacity are given center. The heroes or the good things are at the center. When abstracted, this makes a positive juice.

Contrastingly, she could’ve said more than a mere sentence on the villainous events, elaborating on them as—an unjustifiable abandon by the cat’s mother, an unpardonable cruelty by her street’s dogs, or an undeserved misfortune that the cat should’ve stepped out from home.

She could’ve, but knowing Aditi, by default, she doesn’t elaborate on them. A single mention fetches the villain from our experience. In her first post too, a single mention does it:

I have never been a writer, never written beyond the necessary class assignments. Always a fear of judgement. Today I leave that behind…

Aditi doesn’t proceed to present & relive her negative self-talk from the fear of judgement.

Over any, she habitually chooses to talk more about the positive, choosing immediately — immediately — to write on leaving the fear behind.

Now, consider my habit of choosing.

In a previous gratitude, to later describe a transformative rescue, I narrate a sorry life with a faulty moral compass :

House had a severe influence on me. I watched him repeatedly, everynight in bed. I took him in, I acted him out. And I arrived where he arrived. A seclusion, by choice. Seclusion in a world that we both knew obviously cared.

Not stopping immediately with a singular mention of HouseMD’s sway on me, I by default choose to dig all my pain up and nurse it with stylistic flourish. To top it off, I only announce the rescue, sparing all the positive details, leaving it for youtube to do my job.

Makes negative juice. Incomplete. To be learned from.

More examples:

  • Sai Charan’s singular mention of a negative first impression as the villian, still in a positive form, here, going gentle on himself with the passive voice.
    (Cool, Sai!)
Dark, scrawny, awkward, timid — aren’t characteristics that make for a lasting first impression, of this lad that I chanced to meet a few days into college. Yet, I was drawn by an aura of intrigue…
  • Siddharth Ganesh’s masterful retelling of an injury here, not writing & reliving the low, or putting his own pain first, but expressing gratitude immediately to those who’ve helped him climb, giving us all his view from the peak.
“This injury is called the heart attack of the knee, you cannot play football again.” my doctor declared after looking at my MRI report. Those word crushed me inside. But I always believed I will play again… Today I am back on the pitch playing the beautiful game.
Learning 1 — Villain briefly. Hero at Center. Positive Juice.

What’s in head, falls on page. Our default setting for the center is telling of our mental hygiene. And the controls are hard to reach for by oneself.

Aditi, Sai Charan, Siddharth Ganesh, I’m completely grateful you’re here and for the learning you provide :)

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