Has the Meaning of Christmas Shifted for You?
As I have aged, the importance of gifts has faded, but the magic remains
The Wonder of Christmas
I have always loved the joy and magic of Christmas. I loved the small details, such as finding the perfect stocking stuffers, decorating, lighting candles that make the house smell like evergreen, and even the child-like wonder of hoping for a white Christmas as an adult. But I agree with Seda Anbarcı; consumerism has gotten out of control. The pressure to buy for too many people and spend far too much takes the joy out of this special season.
Setting Holiday Boundaries
This year, I was honest with my family. I set boundaries and told them I was only buying for my extended family when I found the perfect little things and not out of obligation. I also told them I would only shop on years when we would be together because the cost of shipping has gone through the roof.
In the past, I have gotten my sister something I felt was special, only for her to say, “What on earth am I going to do with this?” It was hurtful.
Now, my children are just starting out and making homes for themselves. Their wish/need lists were long. So, I did send them useful gifts. I remember what it was like to be their age. But, I requested they not send me anything. I have all that I need. I would rather they visit when their work schedules allow.
Stress For Many People
For many people, holidays conjure up bad memories, financial stress, or toxic family dynamics. What is painted as the most wonderful time of the year is a nightmare for many. Please be aware of this. Check on your family members, neighbors, and friends. Ask people who are alone if they would like to join you. Some enjoy being alone, and others are deeply suffering. Awareness is important. Sometimes, the greatest gift we can give is a seat at our table and shared time.
How I am Celebrating This Year
So, I am spending my Christmas alone for the first time. No need to worry about returning gifts or the pressure of opening a gift I may not love as much as the person giving it. I can stay in my Pajamas as long as I wish and read by the fire. I went and saw the lights at the zoo, drove around and saw magical neighborhoods lit up, and visited the Desert Botanical Gardens and saw their festive displays.
I can pig out on my yummy brunch and then go to the hot tub in my Santa hat. Oh, and I can still light my evergreen candles and listen to my Christmas music. But, unfortunately, I definitely know it will not be a white Christmas here in the Sonoran desert, and I am good with that. I will end Christmas Eve watching Elf- a family tradition.
I will see some of the magical white snow in the mountains when I go pick up my little love nugget on Tuesday. This year, my greatest Christmas gift is my new puppy, Aspen. I am bringing my Bernese Mountain Dog home on the 26th and am elated with joy. So, I have her fluffy, soft doggie bed and several puppy toys and treats under my tree. She deserves to be spoiled! I named her Aspen for the beautiful yellow of the Aspen trees each fall in the Mountains of Flagstaff, where she is from.
Final Thoughts
What are your thoughts on Christmas? Have your thoughts on gifts shifted with age? My shift is partially because the older I get, the less I want and need. I have shifted into more of a minimalist mentality. Don’t get me wrong; I still love to give to others, just not in the copious, all-out way I used to. I try to put more thought and effort into what I now do give.
I gave my son his first good knife set. He loves to cook, and they come with a lifetime warranty. He opened early because he flew to see his sister with his dad. He was absolutely thrilled. I sent his stocking and a small gift to his sisters for him to open tomorrow morning. But This is the magic of Christmas for me, knowing that my children are happy and taken care of.
I hope your holidays are full of wonder, joy, and love. As we look toward the new year, I hope you are as excited to start a new chapter as I am. Have you started to think about your goals for 2024? I don’t necessarily set resolutions; instead, I like to think of a list of intentions. Comment and tell me your intentions for the new year! Let’s raise the energy and start getting excited! Cheers! Please subscribe to my YouTube Channel.
Peace & Light,
Libby
In response to 𝓓𝓲𝓪𝓷𝓪 𝓒’ s 🎁Day 24: Is it returnable? I thought fitting for today ❤️❤
Warren Brown wrote an inspiring poem ❤️
