The New Year Gift Of — UnStuck

From the web of thoughts

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If I am a worrier, what do I do? I worry all day. Worriers can obsess about how little they ‘do’. They could think all day about how static life is, and how they are stuck.

Worry is a function of the mind that stalls every other function.

Sure, you wake up, brush your teeth and get things done. But the misery never leaves—the feeling of not being enough eats at the very core of existence.

Come the new year, can I change my internal dialogue? Can I make friends with myself, talk to my pain points and help myself climb out of the hole, that I keep falling into and expect someone to come by and help me out of it?

As Mel Robbins says, “No one’s coming, no one”. And that is the actual simplest truth.

This new year, replace the inner dialogue with —

• I am doing my best
• I am on a journey to be friends with myself the way I am. (also the way I am not)
• I am on a unique journey that does not need a justification.
• I am going to be super kind to the depressed part of me.
• I am going to eliminate words like ‘should’ and ‘what's wrong with me or you’ from my dictionary.
• I surrender to your plan. (not being a pushover, but a surrender overcome with humility) I surrender to life.
• I am not alone.
• It is ok.
• What is this person, situation, problem or adversity trying to teach me?
• Someone will always be better, I can only learn from others.
• Most people are good. Unless they show me their real intention, I don’t have to suspect everyone's intention. I can breathe around people.
• If they are rude, harsh or give me pain, I see it as their struggle with themselves; I bless them and move on. I will not make it about me.
• I will support myself first, and be there for others only when they need me. If they don’t ask for my help, I trust they will figure out a way.
• I shall trust the intelligence of the universe. It knows way more than I do. (But if there’s actual trouble, I will use my intelligence and look for the closest way out instead of waiting for help) 😀
• I am doing ‘enough’. But if I want more, I need to make plans and stick to them.
• It is ok to want more. At the end of it all, no one is giving me that medal of sacrifice. 😅
• If I need something, I will ask for it. It's not about being selfish. It's about taking care of the self. (Let's not expect everyone around to understand and act)
• I will work more on having fun on the journey—there is no point in worrying.
• New Year need not stress me into overhauling everything familiar and making drastic changes. Knowing that I am enough and everything around me is what I need will put things into a new perspective and that is something we all need.
• I will work intentionally towards expressing myself without worrying about outcomes and personal shame.
• I will do everything to invite more and more awareness into my being. I will become so aware that I will never depend on any person or app to show me direction or path.
• I will honour my word to myself to achieve what I want to be and be where I want to be.
• Being kind to myself is supreme. Though I have this whole list here, I don’t know if I will stick to them. But I'll remember to be kind at every step. Remind me that I am indeed doing my BEST.