AUGUST WRITING PROMPT
When People Tell You Who They Are The First Time – Believe Them
The relationship nugget which took me more than once to get
When I was first told this blinding truth, I didn’t integrate it; I scoffed and thought it was common sense.
Intellectually, I thought, “Of course — why would you associate more with someone who crossed a standard you have, or did not behave in a way conducive to good communication?”
Hormones – that’s why.
Before I integrated this meaning and how it showed up in my relationships, all these little yellow, orange, and red colors would appear and I would think, “You don’t have to be that rigid about this. Maybe you can be more flexible — be the cool girl.”
Granted, if you have good, open communication standards, concerns can be flushed out and what is concerning to you might be flexible.
I also have a working relationship with boundaries. I grew up in a culturally enmeshed family, so unraveling the codependency and creating healthy boundaries was like learning a new language and a daily act of self-care.
So, sometimes (initially) in instances like learning a new language, my standards/boundaries would come out a little rigid, if…
