How To Improve Emotional Intelligence

“Emotional intelligence, as we described it, is the capacity to reason about emotions and emotional information, and of emotions to enhance thought. People with high EI, we believed, could solve a variety of emotion-related problems accurately and quickly.”

In today’s economy, solving emotion-related problems is critical. At work, we deal with complex problems. And we often have to work together to find solutions.

Better Self-knowledge Leads To Higher EI, Which Leads To More Happiness

EI describes a person’s capacity to identify emotions. Not only other people’s emotions, but also your own emotions. In fact, I believe that you have to start with identifying your own emotions before you can lead others. So EI is very closely related to self-knowledge.

  • And better self-knowledge leads to more happiness.
  • And more happiness means higher job satisfaction.
  • Higher job satisfaction leads to better results.
  • Better results lead to more acknowledgment.
  • Acknowledgement for our work makes us feel important.
  • Again, that improves happiness, results, etc.

1. Identify Your Emotions

Daniel Goleman, another EI pioneer, and the author of Emotional Intelligence: Why It Can Matter More Than IQ, argues that we have two minds. He says:

“In a very real sense we have two minds, one that thinks and one that feels.”

To develop my mind that feels, I like to write about my daily emotions in my journal. If you don’t journal, start doing it for the sake of EI. The first step is to identify how you feel and what triggers your emotions. Don’t worry about why. Here are a few questions you can ask yourself:

  • Do you get angry when you get criticism?
  • Do you get sad when people ignore you?
  • Do you freeze when you’re put on the spot?

2. Interpret Your Emotions

Once you have a better picture of how you respond to different situations in life, it’s time to understand them. Think about these things:

  • And what you do think about that?
  • Why do you even get upset, sad, happy, angry, etc., in the first place?
  • Don’t judge and say, “I’m such a fool.” No, it’s all about understanding your emotions. Nothing more. Nothing less.

3. Manage Your Emotions

This is a big part of succeeding in business. A leader doesn’t go with the flow or follows the energy of a group. A leader SETS the mood. But before you can set the mood in groups, you must master setting your internal mood. Answer yourself:

  • Can you cheer yourself up?
  • Can you slow yourself down when you’re too excited?
  • If not, work on it. Because you must have control over your emotions to manage them.

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