Six Spokes Theory: Strategy For An Optimal Life

Unlike other life theories, this is not about becoming successful

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  1. Mind: Your ability to focus, rest, and acquire knowledge.
  2. Love: Your relationship with family, friends, kids, and intimate partner.
  3. Work: How much inner satisfaction and financial rewards you receive from your career.
  4. Money: What you do with the money you have.
  5. Play: How well you’re able to entertain yourself.

How To Apply Six Spokes Theory To Daily Life

How can you use this theory to live better? One thing you might notice is that every spoke is equally important for a wheel.

Balance Your Energy, Not Your Time

The biggest challenge with living an optimal life is how much time you spend on all the areas of life. Conventional thinking says, “I need allocate my time to everything equally.” That type of thinking causes frustration and inner conflict because it’s impossible.

Examples In Every Day Life

The Six Spokes Theory is about smart energy consumption. This theory will not work if you expend energy on negativity and useless activities. One must be thoughtful all the time. Here are some examples.


When I spend time with people I love, I give them my full attention, support, and treat them with kindness. That has several consequences:

  • Being kind doesn’t mean you swallow your words, you need to be honest as well
  • I can’t be preoccupied with work or other things in life
  • I need to be in a good place myself, otherwise I can’t support others


Every day, I consciously decide to treat my money with respect. I don’t squander it. I don’t dream of having more of it. I see it as a tool. When I used to see someone driving a fancy car, I thought, “Wow, I want to make more money so I can buy a car like that.”


I like having fun in different ways. I enjoy watching comedy. I like reading books. I recently picked up archery. I play video games. Some days I just do it for 30 minutes, but it’s not about the time, it’s about the effect this has on me.

Are All Your Spokes Tight?

Six Spokes Theory shows that we can’t neglect important areas of life if we want to live optimally. This requires making tough choices. While we can’t neglect any area of life, we also can’t do everything we want at the same time.

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