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Keep trying to heal yourself without taking unnecessary risks

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Any physical impairment has an impact on your mood, energy, and productivity. I’ve had lower back issues since I was 15 years old. And it haunted me many years through college, grad school, and my career after that.

Ever since it started, I was conditioned to go to physical therapists and chiropractors. The cycle was always the same. I did something that triggered my back pain, went to the chiropractor, got my back “manipulated,” and I was good…for a few months.

By the time I was 29, I was fed up with this cycle. One of my main goals in life is to be self-reliant. I don’t want to be dependent on people or tools unless it’s absolutely necessary. …

You always have company

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We think everyone needs to feel lonely when they are alone, right? Now, the feeling of loneliness is very real. I’m not going to argue with that. But why do we have a negative association with being alone? Here are some of those negative ideas we have:

  • Being single is for losers
  • Divorce means you failed
  • Being alone is for the crazies

“You can’t get away from yourself by moving from one place to another.”

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Do you remember the first time you did something new and exciting? It was a big thing, right? But you also got used to it, right?

We get used to almost everything in life. That’s a good thing, but it can also be bad at the same time. One of the strengths of humans is that we get used to everything. That ability helped us to survive and evolve.

The first time I got on an iPhone, I thought it was the coolest thing in the world. Now, it’s just a device. When I moved to London a few years ago, I thought that I would never get bored again. …

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We all claim we want happiness. And yet, many of us are unhappy.

We complain all the time. We fight with family members. We play dirty office politics with co-workers. We shout and scream at other drivers in traffic. We give random people on the street judgmental looks.

“Well, not me! I don’t do that stuff.”

Yes, you do. Why? Because you’re human. I do it too.

Look, we all know how to live a happy life. The formula for happiness is not some kind of secret.

We all know that money, status, fame, or respect does not make us happy. Happiness is a state of mind. …

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The dialogue about happiness has not changed much for the past 3000 years since ancient Greek and Roman times.

But people pretend that everything has changed and that more people are unhappy than ever. That’s supposed to be because we’re more connected than ever.

You read it all the time. “Technology makes people feel lonely and depressed!”

I agree that technology itself has changed. But human nature has not. People have been unhappy, lonely, miserable, and sad since the start of modern civilization. We still ask ourselves questions like:

  • How about my house?
  • Does my partner make me happy? …

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I love practical advice that you can immediately apply to your life. And Zen, a school of Mahayana Buddhism, is full of practical wisdom.

When I tell my friends, colleagues, and people I work with that I like reading about Zen Buddhism, they often make remarks like: “When are you going to grow your hair, walk around bare feet, and talk about yoga all day?”

That’s the hipster way of life. Not the Zen way.

What is Zen, actually? To be honest, I don’t know. It’s not a religion, belief, or piece of knowledge.

I started reading more about Zen when I learned that legendary basketball coach Phil Jackson is very into Zen and used the concepts to coach Michael Jordan and Kobe Bryant. …

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Say “Thank you.” Appreciate everything. Enjoy a good life.

We live in a uniquely safe, risk-free, and good time.

Mortality rate is at an all-time low. Poverty is decreasing year over year. Diseases are treatable. You get to live longer. And technology makes life easier and safer.

Evolution is a beautiful thing (if you only look at the facts).

However, that’s not the full story. People are still miserable. Suicide rates increase. People have more depressions and burnouts. More and more people are on meds. I’m not going to flush you with all the hard statistics. It’s not pretty.

But there are also soft measures that show the ugly side of today’s world. When you walk around on the streets, go to restaurants, parties, festivals, or take public transportation, you see a bunch of zombies instead of happy individuals who are celebrating life.

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One of the main things I’ve learned about life is that before you conquer the external world, you have to master the inner world of your mind.

You might have all kinds of awesome goals.

  • “I want to feed starving people.”
  • “I want to fly to the moon.”

Legendary surfer, Laird Hamilton said it best:

“Make sure your worst enemy doesn’t live between your own two ears.”

Self-doubt creeps into your system at the weirdest moments. At times you don’t expect it at all. …

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Who does the most work in the office? Who gets the most attention? Who did most of the cleaning in the house? Who bought the most presents? Who called who the most?

The answer is this: No one cares about the silly scorecards inside your brain.

When people keep score, there’s only one outcome: Resentment.

Studies show that we often overestimate our contribution. In social psychology, that’s called the Egocentric Bias.

The term was first used by Michael Ross and Fiore Sicoly in a 1979 study. The researchers found that nearly 75% of married couples overestimated their contribution to the relationship. …

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For the longest time, I believed that there’s only purpose of life: And that is to be happy.

Right? Why else go through all the pain and hardship? It’s to achieve happiness in some way.

And I’m not the only person who believed that. In fact, if you look around you, most people are pursuing happiness in their lives.

That’s why we collectively buy shit we don’t need, go to bed with people we don’t love, and try to work hard to get approval of people we don’t like.

Why do we do these things? To be honest, I don’t care what the exact reason is. I’m not a scientist. All I know is that it has something to do with history, culture, media, economy, psychology, politics, the information era, and you name it. …


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