8 Ways To Kick Start PUBLIC SPEAKING 📣 Today! As a child, I suffered from low-self confidence and an inferior complex…
I remembered the first time I was asked to stand on the stage to introduce myself in front of a large crowd, how I was anxious and terrified, trembling all over. 🤢
🤢I stood dumbfounded for a moment and managed to utter my name and quickly dash off the stage feeling horrible.
At that moment, I told myself that I should avoid public speaking at ALL COST! ❌❌❌❌
🌟FORTUNATELY, since that incident, I was overcome with curiosity and dissatisfaction…. 🤔
Tossing and turning in my bed, my mind was filled with many “What If”s…..
🎈What if I could fix this?
🎈What if I could improve my speech?
🎈What if I gain the ability to deliver eloquently?
🎈What if I have more confidence?
I said to myself, “If those guys can do it, I am sure that I can do it too right?”. ️✔✔✔
Within renewed hope, I visited the library and started researching on public speaking related books 📖, the following morning.
Gradually, I found myself addicted to speaking on the stage and facing the audience. 🕺
The larger the crowd, the more excited I become.
It sounded very simple though, but it was surely not easy. 😅
I made a big pile of mistakes and heaps of errors (a mountain full of them) in each and every session but never have I ever thought of giving up.
Public speaking requires 3 THINGS fundamentally:
❗a lot of practices
❗loads of patience
❗be very open to criticism and feedback
I spent countless hours writing, memorizing, and practicing my speeches.
In the next 2 years, I delivered hundreds of 🗣🗣🗣 presentations and soon enough I was INCAPABLE of feeling inferior.
I felt reborn and empowered. 💪💪💪💪🆙️🆙️🆙️🆙️
I understand that the first speech you give on stage is always the hardest. 😔 FRET NOT! As there are a few quick ways, that I will like to point out for you to kick start the journey to be a more CONFIDENT AND EFFECTIVE PUBLIC SPEAKER.
♠️ IT IS 🆗️ TO SCREW UP
For those doing it for the first time, accept that you are not gonna score too well. However, even if you have done it countless time, it’s ok to screw up!
Don’t beat yourself up. Instead, learn from it.
Tell yourself that you are not here to do a PERFECT show but rather a BETTER show. 👏👏
♠️IT IS NORMAL TO FEEL NERVOUS
Even the extremely extroverts get the jitters 🤯from time to time. Feeling shy and nervous are just normalities in humans. We all face such feelings when we find ourselves in situations that make us uncomfortable.
Do it a few more times, you will start feeling different. Familiarity breeds confidence.😎
♠️KEEP PRACTICING 🔃
“Don’t practice until you get it right. Practice until you can’t get it wrong.” 💯💯💯
I will often get so excited practicing in front of the mirror or even in front of my friends. You cannot be shy about this. Shyness will not help you in your progress. Practice your speech or presentation out loud ahead of time so you feel comfortable with the words you’re saying and the way they sound coming out of your mouth.
♠️ KEEP A GOOD POSTURE 🕴
The importance of good body language can’t be underestimated. It’s incredibly important not only to audience engagement but also on how your overall message is received.
➡️Face the audience as much as possible and keep your body open.
➡️Stand straight with shoulders back, relaxed and feet shoulder-width apart.
➡️Chest out and do not SLOUCH!
➡️Prevent crossing your arms or putting your hands in your pocket.
➡️Use hands gestures to emphasize your words.
By varying your gestures, incorporating your head, arms, and hands, it helps keeps the audience’s attention 🤗 in your favor.
♠️ KEEP EYE CONTACT 👀👀👀
This is my favorite one!
Eyes are like the “Windows to our soul”.
Making eye contact with the crowd is an absolute must.
Our eyes also reflect our SINCERITY, INTEGRITY, and COMFORT when communicating with another person.
This will really train you this to be out of your comfort zone. It will scare the SHIT 💣 outta you initially but once you get better at this, your self-confidence grew as well.
The old saying that “eyes are a reflection of your inner self” holds true in most cases.
The 🌟TRICK 🌟 is to move from face to face, making eye contact while speaking. This will help ensures that the audience is engaged. When answering an audience member’s question maintain eye contact, this conveys sincerity and credibility.
♠️Structure your speech
This is something that I learned by heart and probably the easiest to apply. I will break it down into 3 basic steps.
✏First, your opening. This will be the introduction of your speech and your intended topic.
✏Second, your 3 key points. You may have stories tied to these key points.
✏Lastly, your closing. This will be your ultimate summary followed by a closing targeted at the audience in hope for them to take home.
♠️Find your reference or idols 🤩
Learn from the best 👍 to improve.
Follow your favorite public speakers on social media. You will also find some of the best speakers in the world from Ted Talks.
You can choose to attend live events as well, observe and learn. Politely approach the speakers at the end of the event and seek their advice.
Other than the frequent library trips reading up on public speaking, I was listening to gurus like Anthony Robbin and Les Brown. That was absolutely helpful for my development.
♠️You be you
For a period of time, I was “shadowing” my idols on how they deliver their speech. The downside 📉- I received feedback that I was not “natural”.
Feedback is great, especially when you are eager to improve.
I was also feeling not quite myself for a while, my speeches were lacking “originality”. Hence, I continue to work on BEING ME.
Be yourself, let who you are come through and have fun. 🎤🎤🎶🎶
Dare to be 💫UNIQUE💫in your own ways!
Everyone has their own uniqueness and quirkiness. ALLOW the QUIRKY aspects of your personality to be a part of your speaking or performing style.
I hope you find what I share useful.
I will share WHY it is IMPORTANT the art of public speaking in my next post.
😊Stay tuned for more updates!😊