and forget about the critics
Fear of embarrassment often keeps people from doing things they want to do.
Fear of failure or looking like a fool makes us hold back on doing something new or difficult because we don’t want to mess up in front of other people.
If the voice in your head is saying, “No. Don’t do it. Think of what the __________ will think” (fill in the blank with the neighbors, your parents, your friends, perfect strangers who might see you), then you need to read this.
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Whether it is starting a business or changing jobs or going back to school or trying out a new activity, just do your thing and don’t worry about the haters.
Don’t let the fear of the response of others, known or unknown, prevent you from accomplishing something you want to do. Don’t let the fear of looking foolish or less than perfect hold you back from having fun or trying something new.
P.S. None of this means you shouldn’t take precautions and try to avoid mistakes by being prepared.
Have you ever wanted to try something, but you were afraid you would mess up and look stupid?
Is there something you want to do, but you feel you are too dumb, too inexperienced, too shy, too old, too fat, too anything to do it?
I suggest that you be bold and forget about being criticized or judged as stupid or foolish and just go for it.
Last week I went on vacation with my son, his wife, and my granddaughter who is seventeen. One of the activities we did was parasailing.
I had one fear related to this activity. I had a knee replacement in 2017 and because I could not do as much physical therapy as I should have done, I cannot bend my left knee as far as it should bend.
This makes some activities difficult to accomplish.
I was afraid I might get hurt parasailing. I was afraid the landing would be difficult and I might hurt my knee until I watched a video that showed how it was done.
It also showed how the parasailers’ feet are dipped into the ocean just before landing back on the boat. It looked safe and fun.
After watching the video, I felt that I could parasail safely. Mostly, I had feared to make a fool of myself in front of other people. Now I felt that I could do this without any major f*ck-ups.
However, f*ck-ups did occur beginning with my attempts to get on the banana boat that took us to the boat with the parasail.
Because I cannot put too much pressure on my left knee, trying to straddle the banana boat and scoot forward was comically difficult for me. What was worse was when I had to get off the banana boat and onto the parasailing boat.
There was no ladder and the banana boat was rocking back and forth as I tried to get my leg up on the boat.
I finally managed to haul my carcass onto the boat. The ten or so other people on the boat got a good clown show, but I didn’t care.
I was older by at least two decades than anyone else on the boat so I am sure that they felt sorry for the “old lady.” My granddaughter was a champ and felt no embarrassment being with me.
I had worried about the landing after parasailing, but it went well as it does for the people you see in this video. The only problem was when they “dipped” us in the ocean just prior to landing.
When my feet hit the water, my right knee bent and my left knee didn’t.
This made the harness twist back and forth, and then straighten out before we landed. Everyone else who went parasailing had smoothly mastered the dip without twisting back and forth like me.
I looked like a dork.
I could have felt shame and mortification because of my struggles getting on and off the boat and the less than the elegant dip, but I laughed it off. I didn’t want my embarrassment to ruin what was an amazing experience.
I could have declined to participate in this activity and avoided looking like a major klutz, but then I would have missed out on the experience of being hundreds of feet above the ocean and feeling the breeze while looking across the coastline with my granddaughter.
I didn’t care what the people on the boat thought of me while they watched me struggle to get on and off the boat. I didn’t care that I blew the “dip.” I had a wonderful experience with my granddaughter that we will both treasure.
I am sure some of the young people on that boat thought I was too old to be parasailing, especially since I had a problem with my knee. They may have laughed at me or criticized me, but I don’t care.
I don’t ever want to miss out on something fun and exciting for fear of being embarrassed. You shouldn’t either.