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What I Encounter As An Online Dating Consultant

Steve Dean
May 26, 2016 · 6 min read
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A day in the life…

For starters, I see a lot of bad dating messages. Like, alot a lot. So many that in 2011 I actually made a website dedicated entirely to those terrible messages:

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Takeaways

Overall, my experience across so many dating apps has taught me one very important thing: the world of dating is increasingly fusing with the world of social networking. We log into our dating profiles using Facebook. These same dating profiles are now, in many cases, public in search engines. There are even live events dedicated to making fun of people who don’t yet realize this new reality in which the things we say on the internet can get publicly rebroadcast in realtime.

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Addendum

Some people have asked that I address the topic of sexual economics and gender-based discrepancies in user experience / behavior across dating apps. Well, from my experience, I’ve received fewer than 10 overtly sexual messages from non-spambot women despite over 5 years of being on over 150 dating apps as a male user. Contrast that with the day in 2013 when I created a female profile on a dating app and received 100 messages in the first day, 25+ of which were overtly sexual, and several of which made aggressively sexual/violent threats.


About the Author…

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Dateworking

Life at the cutting edge of dating, sex, and relationships

Steve Dean

Written by

Online Dating Consultant & Speaker, Dateworking.com | Host, Modern Connection podcast | Community Builder

Dateworking

Life at the cutting edge of dating, sex, and relationships

Steve Dean

Written by

Online Dating Consultant & Speaker, Dateworking.com | Host, Modern Connection podcast | Community Builder

Dateworking

Life at the cutting edge of dating, sex, and relationships

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