Breaking into Non-Monogamy

a rapid resource guide for the curious

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First, gather a few critical perspectives on love and relationships

  1. The Bigger Picture of Polyamory
    https://medium.com/@JasnaTod/the-bigger-picture-of-polyamory-680a573f3d5f
  2. How We End Up Marrying the Wrong People
    http://thephilosophersmail.com/relationships/how-we-end-up-marrying-the-wrong-people
  3. There’s No Such Thing As Everlasting Love, According to Science
    http://www.theatlantic.com/sexes/archive/2013/01/theres-no-such-thing-as-everlasting-love-according-to-science/267199/
  4. Why We Fuck — Evolutionary Roots of Non-Monogamy
    http://www.raptitude.com/2012/06/why-we-fck/
  5. Monogamy vs. Polyamory
    http://www.elephantjournal.com/2013/12/monogamy-versus-polyamory-to-commit-or-not-commit-alia-maiter/
  6. Casual Love
    http://blog.carsieblanton.com/post/82149148832/casual-love
  7. Types of Nontraditional Relationships
    https://thethinkingasexual.wordpress.com/2013/05/07/relationship-anarchy-basics/

Next, explore some of the tactics for handling jealously, disclosure, and the treatment of your new (and existing) partners

  1. Ten Realistic Rules for Good Non-Monogamous Relationships
    http://youonlywetter.co.uk/blog/2013/12/14/10-realistic-rules-for-good-non-monogamous-relationships/?relatedposts_exclude=3395
  2. Having a polyamorous relationship with a monogamous partner: What your monogamous partner wants you to know
    https://www.morethantwo.com/bridgingthedivide.html
  3. How to Treat Non-Primary Partners Well
    http://solopoly.net/2012/11/27/non-primary-partners-tell-how-to-treat-us-well/
  4. Care and Feeding of Polyamorous Secondary Relationships
    http://www.morethantwo.com/primarysecondary.html
  5. How to Handle Jealousy
    http://www.salon.com/2014/07/14/jealous_of_what_solving_polyamorys_jealousy_problem/
  6. A dialog between a polyamorous and a monogamous person
    https://www.morethantwo.com/polymonodialog.html

Finally, get acquainted with the must-read literature for non-monogamous folks

  1. The Ethical Slut
    A Practical Guide to Polyamory, Open Relationships & Other Adventures
  2. Opening Up
    A Guide to Creating and Sustaining Open Relationships
  3. More Than Two
    A Practical Guide to Ethical Polyamory
  4. Sex at Dawn
    How We Mate, Why We Stray, and What it Means for Modern Relationships

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