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4 Questions I Ask Myself When I Feel Stuck
It’s not about solving the problem, but observing what’s holding you back
As humans, we’re naturally inclined to look for reasons to keep ourselves safe. Our brains are conditioned to fear the unknown and look for safety in things that we find comfortable and familiar.
For years, I struggled with feeling “stuck” in my life and not knowing how to deal with these emotions. I knew what I needed to do to achieve my goals, but the minute I tried to take the necessary steps to achieve them, I was overcome with overwhelming feelings of fear and anxiety. This caused me to stay in situations that I hated for way too long, out of fear of the unknown.
At the time, I made a lot of excuses about why I couldn’t do the things I wanted. I blamed my circumstances and my environment for holding me back and not giving me the opportunities to succeed. I blamed feeling “stuck” on a lack of opportunity and resented others who actually went for the things they wanted. I was so convinced that external forces were controlling what I could and couldn’t do when, in reality, it was my mindset that was keeping me stuck.
I was a privileged person, blaming my circumstances on everything around me, rather than owning up to the possibility that the only thing holding me back was…
