If You’re Jealous, Just Say So

Live and let live. It’s how I navigate the world.

But for some unfathomable reason, women in the working world are always trying to tear me—and all homemakers—down. They curl their crooked lips and disgustingly spit the word “unemployed.” They say with such venom, “You’re just lazy,” as if I should hang my head in shame for relying on a man. How stupid I am, they imply, for asking for money. How could I possibly be happy?

The Irony of Feminism

Many of these women cry feminism and a woman’s right to choose her path, yet they insult and denigrate me for choosing to remain at home. Why do they claim to champion all women but exclude those of us who choose to enrich the lives of our friends and families instead of becoming a cog in a machine of indifference?

It’s Giving Jealousy

Let’s be real: it’s giving jealousy. It’s giving “I’m unhappy with myself because I do not have the freedom to set my day as I please.” It’s giving “I’m angry that I cannot find someone willing to offer this life to me.”

The Reality of Homemaking

Make no mistake: most homemakers today come from professional backgrounds. We’ve built companies. We’ve been teachers, doctors, and CEOs. We are women who recognize that a division of labor with specialization is more practical and productive than duplicating responsibilities. This is the accepted wisdom in the corporate world, so why not apply it to the home? We are not lazy, entitled, or moochers. We are women who have chosen to invest in the happiness of ourselves and our families rather than employers who see us as nothing more than NPCs.

A Day in Our Lives

While you’re sucking down your third Starbucks at 2 PM, trying to look attentive in yet another pointless meeting, I’m lunching with my girls and enjoying a bit of retail therapy. While you drag your exhausted being through the door only to don the hat of a caregiver for a dysfunctional family and an ungrateful husband, I’m heading to my dinner reservation at that place on the pier—you wouldn’t know it.

Even on the days when I’m fully immersed in my domesticity—cleaning, organizing, decorating, and making a home-cooked meal—I know I’m doing it for someone who loves me and acknowledges how improved his life is because of my efforts. The peace he is granted is worth so much more than a paycheck.

Huh, it seems I should be pitying you.

A Call to My Fellow Wives

To my fellow wives: you will not let those low-vibing souls with their sketchy energy throw you off your game. The saying is “misery loves company,” isn’t it? So let them wallow in their negativity. Keep living your truth, keep nurturing your homes, and keep prioritizing the happiness of your loved ones. Your choices are valid, and you deserve to feel proud of the path you’ve chosen.

Support Each Other

In a world where everyone seems to be competing for validation, let’s support each other instead. Homemaking is not an inferior choice—it’s a profound commitment that shapes lives in ways many cannot comprehend. So, if you’re jealous, just say so. But remember: the joy in our choices doesn’t come from outside validation; it comes from the love and fulfillment we cultivate in our homes.

Stay lovely, my friends.