Hoes Be Winning and Good Girls Finish Last or Are They?
My dad has always led me to believe that no boy was good enough for his baby. I know most fathers who have daughters have probably had similar feelings and who can blame them? They’re guys for crying out loud; probably ran through a lot of other father’s daughters and they’re hoping and praying the karma doesn’t come back for that ass! But even still I took pride in knowing I was precious and should be treated as such.
Being an only child only made it more real for me; obvi my dad loved me more than most because he stopped after he had me. Regardless, I feel like he prepared me for what boys wanted from me…which wasn’t conversation. I avoided the pitfalls that many girls get tangled up in. I’m glad he gave me the game, I can appreciate him for that. Fast forward to 2017 me, I’d say I’m getting my life together 26, smart, no kids, goofy, nerdy, college educated, LinkedIn booming, edges visible, and melanin popping. Yet, all of my good girl attributes don’t seem to be getting me anywhere in the relationship department.
I don’t expect formy resume to get me a date, but what I am saying is…RECOGNIZE A BAD BITCH WHEN YOU SEE ONE. I’m not perfect, but I did everything the way I was conditioned to. I focused on my studies instead of the boys, I learned to not equate my happiness with having a man, and I respected myself in an era where the less you respect yourself the higher your clout. Rest assure this is not a “why me lawd” story it’s a universal tale I have a lot of friends who have similar situations; we’re all sitting around thinking “Are these dudes dumb? Hello, we’re a prize! Come choose us.”.
Instead of giving the girls who did it “the right way” the time of day we often watch our eligible suitors fall in and out of love with the girl opposite of us. I’m not here to put another woman down for her lifestyle choices I could honestly care less. I just hate that poor decision making often leads to opportunities in the dating department that us “by the book” girls don’t get. For every time I told a dude no, I knew there was a girl to who would say yes. I’ve accepted but when are men gonna give these hoes a rest?!!
Hoes, to me, are women who exploit themselves for attention. So you twerking on the snap, posting pictures by the stove with no food in the pan, opps my sex tape leaked hoes are mad annoying. Yeah hoes I’m talking about yall! I’m not knocking your hustle get it how you live but understand you’re setting unrealistic goals for the rest of us. I’ve been in some shape or form of a classroom since I graduated high school and none of the courses I took taught me how to pop p*ssy for a real goon. It seems like the world praises these women even while dragging these women. Baller Alert and The Shade Room put them on display and I can’t help but to notice the attention these women garner from the male species.
It’s not in a good girl’s nature to want to compete with another girl but let’s face it we do it often, even though it’s not right. We crave the attention that they seem to get in abundance not realizing that perhaps it’s not greener on the other side. Would I really want a gang of thirsty boys in my dms, liking my pics, constantly trying to run game on me? The answer is undoubtedly no. Yeah I’d like the occasional surge in followers on social media platforms but at what cost? I think good girls want to feel the same amount of praise we might get for bikini pics that we’d get of a pic of us graduating from college.
That’s the duality that we’re faced with. Maybe hoes want to be just as much like us as we like to be like them. We probably have more in common than we know. So are hoes really winning? Probably so, look at self proclaimed hoe and Muva Amber Rose, she has a podcast, Vh1 talk show, feminist platform, etc. And are good girls finishing last? I doubt it, just look at Michelle LaVaughn Robinson girl of the south side of Chicago. Either way our strengths are our strengths so if T&A pays the bills, get it boo. And if your intellect gets you into the doors you seek entrance to go in and let have. Understand that we can both be eye candy and soul food.
