The Story of YOU: Meet Our Members: Eunice
Member Spotlight: “If you’re not going to touch something with your whole heart, it’s not worth touching at all.”
Name: Eunice Brownlee
Age: 41
Lives: Denver, Colorado
Who are you? Answer that in any way that feels appropriate to you.
I feel like I am constantly trying to figure that out. This whole idea of identity is endlessly fascinating to me. I could answer this in so many ways. I wear rose-colored glasses and I like it that way. I’m a business owner, marketer, writer, mom, incredibly loyal, Enneagram 2, Taurus on the cusp of Aries (but I promise, I’m all bull). I’m an empath, hopeless romantic, divorcee, firstborn, mixed race daughter in the White dad club, and an abuse survivor. But those are all labels. What the hell does it all mean for who I am? At the end of the day, I’m just a girl, trying to make sense of it all.
When do you first remember feeling like/owning/identify as a grown ass woman?
I was 24. My ex husband and I decided to get divorced and then we bought a condo (because I like to do things backwards). We moved in, he moved out, and although it was new construction, I ended up with a massive clog in my toilet one night. I plunged it, I flooded it, I Drano’d it, and finally, I hauled my ass to Home Depot and bought a toilet snake and I snaked the shit out of that clog.
What is the first thing you do when you wake up? Do you have a morning routine or ritual?
Generally, I hit snooze for another 20 minutes. I’m still working on the routine, but I’ve started writing first thing. Create before you consume, a wise woman once told me. Seriously, try it. There is nothing that sets the tone for the day better than creating something, anything. I long to have a back deck or patio to sit on and drink coffee in the mornings. When I’m on vacation, this is definitely part of my morning routine.
What’s been the most valuable skill that you’ve developed in your life this far?
Researching with a curious, but critical mindset. I laugh when I realize that this is the one skill that my most loathed teacher in high school always harped on. “Do your research. Question what you find. Research some more.” It would be amazing to see how little power disinformation would have if more people could do this. I’m a super curious individual, so I’m constantly seeking answers on the things that interest me.
What is your greatest challenge at the moment?
Honestly? It’s dealing with white people who don’t recognize their own fragility, racism & privilege.
What has been the biggest *aha* moment you’ve had being a part of the DGAW™ community?
Women are amazing. For a long time, I didn’t connect with women on a deep emotional level. After my divorce, I connected with my best friend and we’ve always talked about how our relationship is so unique. But showing up in the DGAW community, all of the women here are like my best friend. We have deep conversations without judgment and oftentimes, it’s the first time some of the women have even been on a gathering with the rest of us! It’s beautiful, it’s genuine, and to be quite frank, it’s been the sparkly rainbow in the shitstorm that is 2020.
What is a personal motto or phrase that best represents you?
If you’re not going to touch something with your whole heart, it’s not worth touching at all.
What is your greatest extravagance?
I haven’t done this since March because, COVID…but I frequent a local spa for “happy hour” every week. They have two sensory rooms (Inhale/Exhale) that you can go sit in for thirty minutes. Inhale is a quiet and dark meditation room and they spray Himalayan sea salt into the air. I have a hard time in that room because I always end up inspired with nothing to write with. But I love it, and apparently, it’s good for the sinuses. Exhale is also dark, but you recline in a special chair that touches the length of your body from head to toe and then they put music on in earphones and the bass is turned up high and the whole chair vibrates. Other than a float tank, it is the most relaxing, amazing thing ever. So I enjoy doing that every week and getting a 90 minute CBD massage afterward once a month.
Random fact: My sister Erin and I birthed our daughters only 17 days apart. (Also, I won! Alissa was born first;)
If you could share only one life lesson, what would it be?
Trust your gut, always. This is particularly true for women.
Fave color?
Periwinkle blue
Who do you love most in the world?
My daughter, Alissa.
Anything else you’d like to share or like us to know?
Cyndie once wrote an IG post (in maybe May 2019) about collecting loose change and how it calls in an abundance mindset. So I started doing it too. I ended up finding almost $11 over the last 6 months of the year, but even more than that, I ended up landing one of the biggest contracts I’ve ever had. My daughter makes fun of me every time I stoop to pick up a coin off the ground, but I tell you, that shit works.
Thank you, Eunice, for sharing your story with Dear Grown Ass Women™ and letting us get to know you.
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