Why I’m creating the Decent Dads collection

I take my “job” as Dad pretty seriously. One of the challenges with this job is there’s no “boss” to give me feedback, to learn from, or to give guidance. There’s literally no short-term negative or positive reinforcement on the job of parenting; if you are a lousy parent, you won’t know about it for years to come.

So I think about it a lot. I read parenting articles. I talk to my wife about it. And over the past year or so, I’ve really opened up with some of my other dad-friends. By doing so, I’ve noticed an interesting trend: when the door to the conversation cracks even slightly open, the other dad jumps right in with me. Through comparing notes, I’ve observed three things:

  1. I’m not the only dad who feels this way. Not by a long shot.
  2. I’m getting better at my job.
  3. Every dad I know does (or has done) something, as a dad, that they regret.

In one of these conversations, the term “decent dad” arose. It’s for those of us who don’t consider themselves Great Dads all the time, but hopefully doing it a little better than whoever is in charge of this one:

Unless this is some kind of early stage mountain climbing training or something?

A couple of months ago, I had “an idea” — what if I can extend that occasional conversation/sharing moment in a larger way?

Welcome to Decent Dads. A place where anyone can share their story, whether it’s a learning moment, a sad tale, or an uplifting adventure. The goal is to help remind each other that we’re all in it together, doing the best at our jobs we can. Stories can be submitted using Medium, or through this form. Also, since sharing can be a scary thing, we’re accepting anonymous submissions. We want every dad out there to feel comfortable getting anything they want or need off their chest.

Because we all want to be great. But sometimes we’re just decent.