Christians Always Give Terrible Advice

You should never listen to their advice

Lilith Helstrom
Deconstructing Christianity
4 min readAug 29, 2024

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I didn’t lose my virginity until I was twenty four years old. The person I lost my virginity to became my future husband, yet people at my church thought I was so promiscuous that I was going to hell. I was the church slut basically.

I’d been in an abusive relationship with a guy before that for five years. We’d been waiting to consummate the relationship until marriage, but we never wound up getting married. So we only fooled around and then things ended.

I left Christianity after dating him and felt like an ancient virgin at twenty four years old because I still hadn’t had a dick in me. I’d begun to worry that I’d never have a dick in me so I had sex after I started dating my husband because I wanted to have as many life experiences as everyone else.

But none of the Christians could handle it. The last time I went to church a woman cornered me and lectured me for thirty minutes about it, saying I was headed for hell.

And you know what the best part about it was? She admitted that she had sex with her husband before marriage, too. But she claimed she was forgiven and had repented now because the two of them were married.

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Lilith Helstrom
Deconstructing Christianity

I talk about religion, sex, emotions, and life. Whatever I happen to be thinking about that I think might be interesting. Top Writer in multiple categories.