Postscript of the end of a fairy tale | 童話故事片尾的後記

As a woman or girl, when we are young we must have imagined that one day we will met the Prince Charming, wearing beautiful wedding dress and happily ever after.

Ok, everything is very beautiful until here, I believe the chances of achieving are quite high, but you know what is it after the “happily ever after” of a fairy tale?

There is a fine line between illusion and reality

Nearly 30 years old, life is full of all kinds of wedding and child-related information. Every time I see these messages, I fell very happy for it, but after a few years, sometime a few months later. There will message complaining about hating the bondage of marriage. At this time, I look back to the picture of their joy at the time, compared with the present, I feel a little ironic.

The joy of welcoming the new identity washed away the facts of reality, so when we said “Yes, I do”, the reality had thrown into space.

Weddings and marriages, although only a difference word, but the length of time are totally difference, it just like the difference between fantasy and reality.

As for marriage, I strongly agree that it needs impulsive, because if you think too clearly, you will start to step back and retreat.

No one likes something that’s too realistic because it’s always too realistic to present what we are afraid of.

The more afraid of the problem, the more fearless solution is to face it.

Dear woman or girl, although we all need to know how to love ourselves, but occasionally we need to self-abuse.

Self-abuse here is not to really hurt yourself, but to train yourself to face the problems that you are scared.

When problem comes, it means that we need to grow up. After this sadness, we have learned from it and grown up.

Believe me, you can face all the difficulties, because you have the ability.

If you are escaping, and can’t discuss with your lover before marriage about these issues quietly.

After marriage, it is likely to become a cancer, unable to heal.

I think the person who really loves you, he will not reject the dialogue between you, because this is a step to help to strengthen the relationship between both of you.

If you can face your lover with honest before married.

Enjoy the sweet and sour life of the beautiful illusion and the tragic reality

Behind the beautiful fairy tales, there are also cruel reality that is unknown.

Do you know?

Maybe after Snow White married the Prince Charming, she began to face the change of the Prince Charming appearance.

After marriage of Cinderella, she had to face the life that is not suitable for various palaces.

The little mermaid’s married life makes her feel regretful and feels good to stay back in the sea.

I think they do not know the way they lived in the future before they stepped into the auditorium.

Marriage life is just like a witch holding a poison apple leading you into

I am not encourage everyone not to get married.

But before getting marry, you need to seriously think about how the life after wedding

Don’t let yourself live in a complaining and regretting life

lots of decision are up to you, and no one force you to do it.

Love what you have chosen.

And enjoy the sweet and sour life it brings to you

Hey, are you still immersed in beautiful fantasy?

Now wake yourself up and get back to reality.

For the person that forget to read the postscript of the end of a fairy tale.

身為女人/女孩的我們，在小時候一定都幻想過有天遇到白馬王子，穿上美麗白紗，過著幸福快樂的日子

好的，到這裡一切都非常的美好，我相信實現的機率相當高

But你知道童話故事的句點後面的下個章節，是甚麼嗎?

認清幻象與現實總是一線之隔的事

年近30的我，生活週遭充滿著各種婚禮與小孩相關訊息的洗版，每當看到這些訊息時，心裡總是跟著喜悅起來，但在過了一兩年甚至幾個月之後，就會出現抱怨豬隊友或是討厭婚姻生活束縛的訊息。這時，回想著他們當時歡喜的畫面與現在對比，總覺有點那麼諷刺

也許是那份迎接新身份的喜悅感沖走現實面存在的事實，所以在我們說Yes, I do當下，將現實面都拋到九外雲霄去

婚禮與婚姻，雖然只有一字之差，但在時間的長度上卻是相差甚遠，就好比幻想與現實的差別

關於結婚，我非常認同是需要衝動地，因為若想得太過清楚，很長時候就會開始對於婚姻怯步、退縮

沒有人喜歡太過於現實的東西，因為它總是太過真實地呈現出我們所畏懼的

越害怕的問題，妳需要越無畏的解決面對它

親愛的女人/女孩，雖然我們都要懂得好好愛護與善待自己，但偶爾也是需要是適時的自虐一下

在這裡的自虐並非是要妳真的讓自己受傷，而是訓練自我面對那些所害怕的現實問題

當問題來臨時，就代表著我們都還需要成長，經過這次的難過，我們又多學了一堂課，也長大了一點

相信我，妳能面對所有困難，因為你擁有著自我無法掌握的能耐

若是一昧地逃避，無法和你的另一半在婚前坐下來靜靜討論這些問題

婚後，它很有可能變成你們之間的癌症末期病痛，無法醫治

我想一位真正愛妳的另一半，他並不會排斥你們之間的對話，因為這是幫你們關係更加堅固更加確信的一步

在還未結婚時，都能赤裸著身體面對著你的另一半，我想心也能這樣赤裸的面對彼此

享受美好幻象與慘酷現實mix出來的酸甜生活

美好的童話故事背後，也有著不為人知的殘酷現實

妳知道嗎?

白雪公主嫁給白馬王子之後，要開始面對著白馬王子在家邋遢走針身材的樣貌

仙杜瑞拉在結婚之後，要面對著各種皇宮不適應的生活

小美人魚的婚後生活，讓他感到後悔，覺得還是待在大海裡的好

我想這些可能是他們在踏入禮堂前都沒有想到的生活模樣

婚姻生活，就像壞巫婆拿著毒蘋果引你進入

在這，並非要鼓勵大家不要結婚

而是在進入婚禮前，需要認真思考婚禮過後的婚姻是怎麼樣

別讓自己下半人生都在埋怨、後悔中度過

很多決定是取決於自己，並沒有人要你一定要怎麼做

竟然選擇了，就好好愛你所選擇的

並享受它為你帶來的酸甜生活

Hey, 妳也還在沉醉於美好幻想之中嗎?

現在將自己敲醒，回到現實吧

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