Leaving toxic relationships
When it happens it’s actually over already and that can be part of the shock.
It’s easy for those affected to be disregarded or gaslighted by the abuser or even others who think well of the abuser.
I hope to instill in my own kids one day that if they even remotely think it is acceptable to be abusive — physically, emotionally, or otherwise — they should leave, for their sake and obviously the other’s. That’s not the kind of relationship we should be a part of and the world is hard enough as it is without people close to you being this way. Ideally, you can see a relationship is not working out and let it go before things escalate into tension that shouldn’t be there — maybe that way people can find a better match or take the time they need to work on themselves.
There are many reasons why people linger in toxic relationships, abusive relationships, and it is not easy to get out. But we can support those in need and try to model positive relationships, we can listen. There are few things nobler than striving to have positive relationships in your life or for your family, because those nourishing relationships afford so many other wonderful things in life — so whether that is letting people go that aren’t good for you, supporting a friend realizing someone isn’t all they hoped they’d be, or being happy to see a good couple or relationship prosper, that’s what we can do.
Sometimes you can do everything right and things still go wrong, but there are those in this world who will support you striving to have the best life you can have.