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Do You Hide Your Tears?

Tales from an old softy

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As he approached Jerusalem and saw the city, he wept over it. Luke 19:41 (NIV)

I admit it. I’ m a crybaby.

When I was a little girl and upset, I would open my mouth and wail in high-pitched childishness. It was a loud irritation to anyone in listening distance. Dad would say, “Go outside, Jenny, and cry at the light pole.” It’s not fun going to the farthest corner of the backyard to cry at an upright log but Dad’s method worked. I would stop crying and go back into the house.

Tears and years later as an adult

I have learned the technique of silent crying. A touching story, a wedding, or music prompts tears to flow from my blue eyes. Squelching my tears to obey self-inflicted stoicism is painful. A hard lump rises to crush my vocal cords until the overpowering throat hold forces a tear to roll down my cheek. In shame, I hope no one will notice. In reality, all I want to do is open my mouth like a child and wail. I scold myself, “Be tough, Jenny. No one likes a crybaby.”

Believing a lie

Is crying a character flaw? The best place for answers is scripture.

2 Corinthians 12:9 (NIV) says, “My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.”

Psalms 56:8 (ESV) says, “You have kept count of my tossings; put my tears in your bottle. Are they not in your book?”

And then I look at Jesus. Jesus cried. He wept over Jerusalem, at the grave of Lazarus, and on the cross in agony.

Jesus wept. John 11:35 (NIV)

If God in the flesh wept, then should we see tears as shameful? He values us enough to collect our tears and He records our sorrows. We are supremely loved. Let’s claim our tender hearts and our tears. I am claiming mine.

No one had a softer heart than God. He looked upon us with pity, enough to send His only Son to suffer in our place and become our high priest as our advocate. We can hear Jesus cries and see his tears, as He suffered to redeem us.

There is no need to cry at a light pole when Jesus hung on a pole, shaped as a cross. He is holding us in His arms of mercy and love. His grace carries us in our weakness, but that doesn’t mean we withhold our tears. He sees our tears, records them and even stores them.


Thank you Father for weeping over us and loving us as no other. Amen.

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Jenny Calvert

Jenny Calvert

Jenny is published in The Secret Place, The Upper Room, Short and Sweet books, and Extinguishig the Spirit of Fear., and