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Why Do Christians Hate So Much?


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I claim to be a Christian, yet I would cringe if someone asked me, “Why do Christians hate so much?” In his book titled, What’s so Amazing About Grace, Phillip Yancey tells about a past president who asked this question at a breakfast event to a panel of twelve evangelical pastors. I would love to know the response of these pastors, but it’s also disheartening to know that circumstances warrant this poignant question to be asked in the first place.

Hate–yes, there is a lot of hate going around in this world. There are wars, political upheaval, and impatient, angry people, fighting to the death for their voiced opinion. Unfortunately, hate is also true in the evangelical Christian world. It shouldn’t be.

When my daughter was young, she worked as a waitress in a restaurant. After one of her shifts, she came home and said, “I just hate it when groups of Christian women come in to eat.” With chagrin, I asked her why. She explained that they were rude, entitled, demanding, and they tip poorly to top it all off. Hearing this made me cringe. If anyone should be patient, kind, thoughtful, and giving, it should be Christians.

Jesus’ ministry would be the voice of God proclaiming a passion so deep, so broad, so high, and so long that it is inescapable. Instead of focusing on the Jewish legalistic approach, His message was the fulfillment of the law in the form of hope, forgiveness, healing, and redemption for the hurting soul. He was a word of truth and manifested love in the flesh.

Questions to ponder

He told us that we needed to be a servant to others, and He set an example by washing the disciples’ dirty feet. Do we understand that we are never above those serving us?

Jesus is the King of Kings and Lord of Lords, yet never acted entitled. Do we, as Christians, think we are high above others on a ‘salvation’ pedestal?

God had compassion on us while we were deep in sin, and it was His great love proven to us through His actions. He humbled Himself to be humiliated, beaten, and nailed to a cross. Do our actions reflect Christ?

Could our problem be a lack of the Holy Spirit?

Galatians 5:22–23

But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control. Against such things, there is no law.

What’s our problem?

You can’t get an electric lamp to shine if there is no lightbulb, a watermelon to grow from a radish seed, or get blood from a turnip. In other words, the Bible, the minister, the church leader, a parent, or a spouse can tell us to be loving, kind, humble, forgiving, and patient until they are blue in the face, but until we have the Spirit, it’s most likely not happening. At the same time, many non-Christians show more fruits than some Christians. Isn’t that ironic?

Matthew 12:33–35

Either consider the tree good and its fruit good, or consider the tree rotten and its fruit rotten. A tree is known by its fruit. Children of snakes! How can you speak good things while you are evil? What fills the heart comes out of the mouth. Good people bring out good things from their good treasure. But evil people bring out evil things from their evil treasure.

We Christians continue to sin and stray in our actions. Still, if our typical nature reflects an angry, impatient, unkind, rude, and ill-tempered attitude, something is drastically wrong. What comes out of us is what defiles and defines us.

What’s our solution

People have used religion and the Bible to do some very grievous things. The Bible and religion are not the solution but can only point us to the solution. Get to the root of the problem. Don’t claim to be a Christian if you can’t behave Christlike. If you lack fruit, maybe you have not put on the genuine nature of Christ. If you claim to be a Christian and have a mean character, perhaps you need to ask, “Why?”



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Jenny Calvert

Jenny Calvert

Jenny is published in The Secret Place, The Upper Room, Short and Sweet books, and Extinguishig the Spirit of Fear., and