Now let us talk about it
Right speech , wrong speech, what to say or what not to say.
Are you heart and mind and words in sync. with each other or do you heavily edit your dwords to conceal your true thoughts.
How you think which I looked at yesterday will obviously inform how you speak and what you say, — so will your motivation. They are all linked, as you will see as we move on through these ‘ways to be happy, from Dhamra the original listicle self help guide.
If you hurt someone by mistake but did not intend to, or are hurt by someone who did not intend it, then it is the responsibility of the receiver of that communication to explore why that information hurt them when it might be quite reasonable. It links in with your motivation and your thought processes. If your thoughts processes are a little uncensored then, when you speak, at least you are honest about what you think, if they are too heavily censored then if you speak very carefully you are still being dishonest and that is not good motivation.
Right speech is not about being clever but about speaking honestly without fear and being prepared to challenge against the evils of the world, to speak out, but also not to wound unnecessarily. Sometimes ‘truths’ can be helpful if uncomfortable.
You are responsible for what you say, and how you say it, but not how people accept or receive it. A very skilled communicator can say exactly the right thing in the right way to the right people and remain true to themselves, but that is a goal to reach for, not what most of us can achieve immediately. It takes a lot of effort and self examination to get the right blend of ingredients. So right speech is about doing your best and being as honest and humble as you can, speaking without aggression or determination to be right, being able to listen without being impatient to say your piece….
which leads on to the next topic tomorrow