Alert !!! Toxic under the guise of 'Self-Love'
Do you know that self-love can be a cover for doing toxic things? here I’d like to know,,,
self-love sounds so cool huh?! loving ourselves, being proud of ourselves, doing good to ourselves, and so on. However, even so the concept of self-love can be confusing, and sometimes the reason 'self-love' becomes a mask to cover up someone's toxic actions. how come? how? here I love to know ,,
- When it hurts others
when you boast in front of your friends, but you start to compare them with yourself, you tell them that you are much better than their selves. and you make them think that they couldn’t be like you. Actually, you’ve been toxic. If someone is repeatedly making others feel dismissed, unimportant, or straight-up mean, then this is toxic.
2. When it is selfish
Sometimes self-love could be selfish. why? cause there was a small distance between self-love and narcissism. Toxic self-love almost always creates some sort of penalty or cost for others — whether through boundary violations, negative communication patterns or disrespectful behaviors. Also, toxic self-love can be spotted by comparing it to true self-love, which is guided by respect, empathy and consideration for the self and others
3. When it is an excuse for unhealthy behaviors
sometimes, people think self-love means “doing what feels right for you.” However, this can be misused as a way to encourage unhealthy behaviors. This would mean after engaging in this ‘self-love’ you feel down, bad about yourself, or disconnected from yourself.self-love can be toxic when you hide behind self-care as a form of denial.
Then, what is self-love?
elf-love is about taking care of yourself — mentally, physically and emotionally, Taking care of your needs, spending time in places where you feel loved, as well as doing things to fill your cup back up are all ways that you show yourself self-love.
