The question that we are lost on

31 day challenge

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“I tell my students, ‘When you get these jobs that you have been so brilliantly trained for, just remember that your real job is that if you are free, you need to free somebody else. If you have some power, then your job is to empower somebody else. This is not just a grab-bag candy game.”
Toni Morrison


This 31 one day challenge is worth the millions of words that we read in a year. Yesterday I was honored by a fellow writer who became inspired by my post and went on to make a post from that inspiration because of his own 31 day challenge. Instead of letting this idea fade. I am going to push the idea forward.

I enjoy the idea of being engaged with my readers and followers. So today, I am taking up a 31 day challenge of engagement where I write a post of inspiration from another writer who has clapped or commented on my own post.

My current post is inspired by : Alessandro Tinchini from this post:

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“Tell me what you pay attention to and I will tell you who you are.”
José Ortega y Gasset


Everyone has a personality and we all utilize it everyday. But I tend to freeze when people begin to ask me the paralyzing question of what I do for a living or what did I do before the job I have because it means I have to choose carefully how to answer it. Do they want what I do on the side to sustain myself or what I do as a job because I want to?

What I do as a job because I want to is write. Some may define this as a hobby or a hogwash kind of job because what the average person pays attention to is how much money goes into your pocket, or what you do to get money in your pocket. But I don’t have much of a job history. Seriously.

Most people at age twenty five have at least worked more than two jobs. Actually, I am starting to fear that the fact that I have just picked up my second job can sound scary to others. When people asked me what my job was over a month ago it would be unemployed by choice. Yes. Choice. I moved across country to live with my boyfriend. It meant uprooting and leaving the arcade job (safety) into a jobless world.

The bright side being that I worked at the arcade for four years as my first job. I’m hella dedicated to any job or hobby I partake in. But I still answered my question wrong even back then. People would ask what I do for work? My first response is I work at an arcade. Not that I write and utilize the arcade job as money management.

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“As he read, I fell in love the way you fall asleep: slowly, and then all at once.”
John Green, The Fault in Our Stars

Love, jobs, and unemployed

Moving across the country for love sounds absurd to most. Even impossibly inconvenient for some. But I am a sucker for love. I couldn’t breathe without him. I don’t if many would understand that but when it comes to desiring someone, and loving someone so much you can’t breathe its not a far fetched idea to move away from everything for him. ( Trust me. I love him. I would do it again and again for him.)

But most would say but you did this knowing you were going to be jobless. Yes. We knew. We prepared for it. I saved money to move. When I got here I decided to try something new. A challenge I had never done before.

In fact, I’ve still answered this question wrong while working as a table games dealer. Then there was a dreaded question one that I summarized as troublesome. How do you like your job? This is like asking a vet how they like putting down a dog because frankly most people look at work in a negative light. I don’t. I’ve been raised in a less fortunate background which means any work is good work. Being able to do something for anyone is better than doing nothing at all. But I think people expect the negative answer so I always wince when it comes up.

Rather than frown I say that I enjoy it because honestly I do. Do I enjoy it more than writing? No. But you know what I would rather be doing something for any amount of time that teaches me something new than sitting at home because writing doesn’t have to take up my entire day. The reality is many people want to make money by doing nothing. I can’t imagine how I would feel making money that way. I think I would just give away the money.

Fun fact: I’m not good at math. Another fun fact: I have learned I can actually do math..sorta.

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I stumble with the job question because often I don’t want people to know what I did before I got into another job because I’m not the type to share versatility. I can’t tell them I did this or that but that I worked here or writing is my occupation because society equates an occupation with money not with effort. Due to this I tell them exactly what I think they want to hear and it hurts every-time.

But to be honest…I’m not about the specialty life anyways. I prefer learning new things from languages, cultures, books, math, and anything that makes me understand the world more. This includes reading other posts.

Being like this makes me feel abnormal at times.




If today was your last day how do you want to be remembered?

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Jessica Cote

Jessica Cote

I am just a girl among the many fish in the sea. A writer among the many dreamers, and a socialist among others.

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