Divina’s Release Newsletter: Would You Recommend Divorce To Your Friends?
September 30, 2024 — Writing prompt response
Greetings to all the fellow broken-hearted! 💔
Today’s newsletter is brought to you by the letter “F” and the word “This.”
Okay, actually, my inspiration today came from ’s article about divorce. The piece perfectly combines truth and humor which we all need to read occasionally.
Honestly, I didn’t plan anything for this week’s newsletter, but Jennifer’s article was so entertaining that I genuinely wanted to answer her first six questions.
Let’s dive in, shall we?
1. What were your main reasons for getting Divorce?
Five years have passed since this day in my garage.
I’m finally ready to answer this question authentically: my ex-husband wanted an open marriage, I vehemently disagreed — then slowly (and painfully) realized I was in an abusive relationship and needed to leave as quickly and safely as possible.
To say a relationship is complex after spending half of your life together is putting it lightly. Each person is responsible for half of the dynamics in a marriage, dysfunctional or not. I filed for divorce because my ex-husband wanted to open our marriage. I achingly disagreed — and he did it anyway.
2. Did you find everything you were looking for in Divorce?
Yes, and then some.
In the last five years, I have gained freedom, joy, contentment, health, happiness, confidence, self-efficacy, assertiveness, and, most of all, piles of perspective.
3. Which choice best describes how you feel about the value of Divorce:
A) Divorce seems pretty expensive, for what it is. Spending this much, I might expect something of appreciating value, or at least something I could show off to neighbors.
B) For my part, I am kind of wondering what did I just buy (because I could have a brand new car right now).
C) I don’t even know my neighbors because I had to sell the nice house and now live in a worse house that costs more and anyway I rent it because I’ll never afford to buy a house again. Because Divorce.
D) Divorce was very pricey but I absolutely don’t want to return it.
E) All of the above.
4. How strongly do you agree with this statement: Divorce will change your life for the better.
Divorce will change your life for the worse. Then, for better. Then you’ll go through hell and back about seven times. After the dust settles (approximately 5–7 years), you’ll be more than alright.
5. On a scale of 1–3, with 3 being the cleanest, how would you rate the cleanliness of Divorce?
-7.
6. Would you get Divorce… again?
My knee-jerk response is “never because I will never get married again.”
However, the more mature, somewhat less bitter me says I would do anything I had to do to stay healthy and safe. If I married a man that turned out to be a different person twenty years later, I’d be down at the courthouse before you could say “F — this.”
This newsletter slightly differed from my usual posts about cats or cycling, but it felt just as soothing. If you enjoyed it or have something to add to the topic, please let me know in the comments!
I would really appreciate the feedback.
Quotes of the Week
“The man I married was not the same man I divorced.” — me
“Lawyer’s are cheap.” — no one, ever
Thank you for reading my newsletter. ❤
