Obtain Respect from Your partner.
Appreciation creates healthy Relationships. Being taken for granted by a partner makes the other feel unappreciated, unloved, and even unwanted. And no one deserves that. (Get Supernatural support) or read on for traditional advice and insight.
What is the best-kept secret to a happy, healthy long-term relationship? The first thing that comes to mind is, of course, love. Kindness and respect should be on everyone’s wish list. But it takes more than that.
As I said, there is yet another element that not mentioned above but is an integral part of the relationship. That’s admiration, which is also known as gratitude and appreciation. Without admiration, love withers, and bitterness and contempt can take the place of love and happiness.
To appreciate someone (your companion) means to show them you care for and respect that person. You respect what they represent, stand for, and let them know how much you value how they treat, love, and take care of you. It’s inspiring, liberating, and provides validation to the one who means the most to you.
Feeling unappreciated or undervalued by your partner is bad for your relationship as well as your wellbeing. You can’t physically force the other person to show they appreciate you, but here are some suggestions.
Layout some consequences
However, do not blame them when speaking to them — don’t use “you” remarks. Instead, rely on the “I” statement ( I think, I feel, etc.) After you’ve made your “I” statements regarding how you feel underappreciated:
- Continue the conversation with more “I” statements that lay out some consequences.
- Don’t phrase it in the form of the last chance or final warning (unless warranted, that is).
- The goal is to point out the harm that negative behavior can cause tenderly and gently.
You could say something like this: the lack of appreciation makes me resentful, and I fear it will permanently damage our relationship. Or, I think this relationship might not be worth continuing if things stay the same. Yet be sure to express that you want to save the relationship.
Communicate with the language love.
Honesty and Communication are crucial things to remember. Also
Learning how to speak the other’s love languages will help you two reconnect and rekindle those loving feelings between you both.
last but not least
If nothing changes, enforce the consequences.
Unfortunately, as said before, you can’t physically force your partner to make the positive changes you desire. If they are not willing to make an effort or are unwilling to change, you’re going to have to take a stand. If you don’t stand up for yourself, they’ll continue walking on you.
Although not very fulfilling, it’s possible to sustain somewhat of a relationship even if you continue being under-appreciated, but that’s a choice you will have to make. But it’s at this point I once again bring up the option to try a magical solution.
