Dating apps: Cat men not welcome
Man’s best friend may be helping men get more dating action
My brother found his Alaskan Husky chewing on a Bible, and I haven’t seen the man with a dog ever since. Although I laughed about it — because clearly the dog doesn’t understand the significance of the book — I wasn’t particularly surprised. This was the same guy who invited a cat into my childhood home, knowing full well my parents and me are not cat people. He’s also been married for the past 21 years, so the recent news about cat men being less attractive to women wouldn’t phase him one bit. His family has two cats, and I haven’t heard a word about a dog ever since the chewing incident.
But the College of Veterinary Medicine and Biomedical Sciences study could certainly make single, cat-loving men feel a way about the results. According to the study, “the presence of a pet may add to women’s perceptions of male attractiveness and date-ability.” However, men who posed with cats were seen as “less masculine; more neurotic, agreeable, and open; and less date-able.” Of course, dog-loving women had unsurprising biases regarding these photographs. And women love their dogs, regardless of the reputation of being called “man’s best friend.” The survey also confirmed that “women view pet owners as more attractive and date-able than non-pet owners; however, this effect was strongest with dog owners.”
Even when doing something as simple as playing a board game, men who looked like “dog people” were rated as more masculine to women (ages 18–23 and a college sample of 485 total). Additionally, men were more successful in obtaining women’s phone numbers when accompanied by a dog (28.3 percent) than when they approached women alone. Oddly though, in another study, “dog people” were rated significantly higher on independence than “cat people” — regardless of cats notoriously having reputations as independent animals who don’t need nearly as much affection as the average dog tends to.
In my personal opinion, would I want to date a man who has cats? No. The main reason is because when I’m not being a dog caregiver, I fully intend to get another dog. Regardless of the man’s personality, if it comes down to choosing between his cat and my dog, the feline has to scram pronto or immediately get it together. In all fairness though, there is one particularly Terrier that I loved to walk who was constantly bullying the two cats in his home.
I noticed the cats would run out from their respective hiding places to drink water or nibble on their food whenever I walked in. It looked like this was the first time they could do so in peace, especially considering I had a usually scooped the dog up and buried my head in his fur. When we came back from the walk, the cats would hightail it again. I thought this was a goofy game they were playing up until I forgot a key one time, came back in the door to grab it and found the dog walking around with one of the cats in his mouth. I saved the cat, who took off running immediately, and gave an (unsuccessful) lecture to the dog. But from that point on, those two cats hopped onto bookshelves to get as close to my head and neck as possible and purred all over me, even though I still don’t particularly like cats. I did grow fond — or possibly sympathy — for those two cats though.
So there is a possibility that women can warm up to cats, including women who would not initially swipe right. I went at least a month or two completely ignoring those cats until the Terrier became a terror. So fellas, maybe if you want women to be more intrigued by you and your pets, consider a dog on one side and a cat on the other. Or, just look for your cat lady connections; they’ll understand your cat-loving life better anyway.