What is Controlling You?
As human beings, we all have our stories to tell. Like Barb, you may be struggling with slothfulness and envy, or Chad struggling with identity issues, Sarah struggling with the fear of intimacy, Brian with his raging or David’s story of sexual struggles. You, of course, may not have any of these issues, but you have your own story to tell.
Think back through your life; is there a nagging area of your life that seems to crop up again and again that you never seem to get control of? Really, if we are all honest, our story would probably have more than one area that we might struggle with.
You may identify more with Tammy. She didn’t have a sex, anger, or envy problem. Tammy’s problem was quite different. She was a successful realtor. She was always dressed impeccably. She drove the current year Mercedes and had three office assistants she employed. Yet she and her husband Charles came in for counseling.
You see, Tammy was an out of control spender. It didn’t matter that she made almost a million dollars this year. She hopes constantly for the bigger and better. She creates lavish vacations and takes other families with them and pays for them as well. If something goes wrong in her life or marriage, Tammy leaves for hours to go shopping. She drives to the next large city where the good malls are and walks and buys for hours.
Although she makes good money, they are on a verge of bankruptcy. Spending controls Tammy. Now that doesn’t seem so bad, but it’s hurting her marriage and her family. You see mom can’t handle conflict so she buys the children anything to pacify them.
With story after story people walk into my office. These are good people. They try to be responsible and try to get control, but they feel that something has control over them.
If you or someone you know is one of these individuals who feel something has control over them you are in for a great trip. You don’t need to be controlled by things in your life. You really can get control over what has control over you. I have seen the principles in the following pages set me free of many behaviors that were controlling me.
As a counselor I have seen many people walk in the door discouraged and controlled by something. They applied the same principles in this book that you will come to learn. For those who actually did the work (and some of its hard work), they left the office encouraged and in control of whatever was controlling them.
You, too, can be a candidate to finally get control over what has been controlling you. Don’t worry about how long you have been controlled by it; you can still get in control.
At times you will be challenged and have to do some hard work, but for now all you have to do is turn the page to start the journey of getting control back from what has been controlling you.
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