The Simplicity of the Inferiority Complex
Not so complex though…
I was a relatively shorter child until Class 11 in my school, so technically I was inferior, mentally I don’t remember! But I remember the days when my classmates teased me for my small height. Obviously I felt bad, but I don’t remember myself crying in front of my parents for that or having low self-confidence or low self-esteem. Maybe because I didn't care or maybe my silence made be used to that.
My mother has always told me to wait for the right time to give a reply without words!
Literally I was truly dependent on my mother’s words then and also today I am. So I waited calmly and ultimately I came to the so-called ‘normal’ people group. Surprisingly the topic which was inscribed in my life until now has totally vanished. I was surely happy but I never showed my emotions before and also not after this. Then I realized that I found a way to dodge people's opinions on my looks and personality.
Let me tell you the best part about it, it has taught me patience, taking criticism constructively, anger control. Moreover, my psychology changed after that phase, I now feel freer in terms of my looks, height, dress, or how I am groomed than before. Once you have crossed the barrier of this mental stigma, you can focus on better things in your life which can actually add some values to your life.
Being inferior is a ‘state’ and the inferiority complex is a ‘sense’ of conflict between the desire to be noticed and the fear of being humiliated. So before using the word ‘inferiority complex’, ask yourself first, am I inferior? If no, get a cup of coffee and relax but if yes, on what parameters then!. Review your basis of thinking about inferiority as it’s a very common human behavior to solely focus on what is in front of them.
The flow of thoughts is continuous with everyone but how we process them matters and creates a major difference.
The real truth is that the Inferiority Complex is as complex as the name suggests because the reasons behind it are so much variant. It could be bullying, wrong self-assessment, overcared about oneself, childhood pattern, and anything which creates self-doubt. There are different techniques to cope up with different reasons.
If a person or some group bullies you and make you feel inferior among them, just repeat the following line in your head,
“Never argue with idiots because at first, they will bring you down to their own level and then beat you by experience!”
The problem is there where you are more concerned about your looks, whether people are noticing you or not, whether your appearance is good or not, whether you match your personality with the highest order.
What should I say?-Just look around who is happier!
Every person has got a certain skill in which he/she is good. The so-called inferior members of our society who works day & night for the higher class of society are definitely smarter than the higher class in some aspects of life. No one can be a total failure! The people who work for you may work harder than you or they are more emotionally stable than you or maybe their social quotient is higher than that of yours. These are also qualities -why can’t we see them! There is a very cliche line, “Everyone is unique”. Most people take it very lightly and forget when they need the most i.e. when they feel inferiority complex! Get over it, use your techniques to cope up with that because once you start letting that complex inside, you straightway become vulnerable to fear and self-doubt. Brace yourself!
~Ashutosh
