There’s a time in your life when you feel so alone. You feel like everyone else is able to have peace and love in their relationships but you.

No matter what you try to do, it never works: either he leaves or you flee. And you can’t emotionally or mentally go through another breakup. You pray to God repeatedly to align your path with a good man, but nothing ever happens.

The hard truth: You have not aligned with your mate, because of you. You are misaligned. Your misalignment is caused by your mindset. You can be the most positive-thinking woman in the world, but if your habits and choices don’t reflect that positivity, nothing good will be attracted to you; no one good will stay with you.

It’s your overall mindset, not just the one positive part, which directly affects your choice in friends and associates; your mindset controls your actions, routines and leisure activities.

For most of us, our mindsets were formed well before we became adults: single parent home, foster care, teenage sex/pregnancy, molestation, physical/verbal abuse, rape, peer-pressure, incest.

Most of our actions, choices and decisions are a direct reflection of our past experience, our hurt and unresolved pain. We try to say that we use our painful past to make better choices and decisions, but that’s simply often not the case.

Our past:

• creates a very present paranoia of pending disappointment and hurt;
• causes us to prematurely become defensive unnecessarily;
• encourages us to attempt to manipulate situations/people to help things sway toward our benefit;
• creates a false reality that people are trying to use us; and
• makes us impatient and leads us to accept the unacceptable from others and from ourselves.

The effect of the past on our present and future is huge. Because many of us are still operating from a source of pain that developed in our childhood, NOTHING—absolutely nothing—will ever change for us.

It doesn’t matter how much money or success we have. If we are still operating from the negativity of the past, our lives will continue to be lonely and unfulfilling. And unfulfilling lonely lives, will only attract unhealthy relationships. And these unhealthy relationships, will continue to feed our hurtful past…relationship, after relationship, after relationship…

Make today the day you discover where your misalignment is stemming from.

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