How to Fall in Love with your Sadness, Heartbreak, & Shame like a Buddhist.
2 min readApr 17, 2024
How to fall in love with the confused, lonely, sad, aggressive, grieving, whatever-you-feel-is-less-than-loveable parts of yourself.
It’s simple: when confusion and failures and good things and bad things come up, notice it — don’t ignore it, admit to it, but don’t dwell on it.
Wrecked with guilt for that offhand comment you made seven years ago? Notice it, admit to it, regret it for three seconds, and then come back to the present moment.
Stressed about the interview you have next week? Notice it, admit to it, regret it for three seconds, and then come back to the present moment.
Not feeling the way you look in that pair of jeans? Notice it, admit to it, regret it for three seconds, and then come back to the present moment. (And maybe throw on a different pair of jeans.)
“You are imperfect, permanently and inevitably flawed. And you are beautiful.” ~ Amy Bloom
