How to Love our Messiness a Little More Today.

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Lately, I’ve been feeling a bit overwhelmed.

When I feel like a hot mess, I like to check in with myself and look for the problems that might be burdening me.

As a perfectionist, I expect everything to fall beautifully into place, including my self-love practice.

But I know that’s not possible. No matter how hard I try to dissipate my messiness, it always creeps up on me. Sometimes I feel like it doesn’t go away at all. It seems that it’s an unshakable part of my life that I can’t simply tuck away.

My messiness shows up in vulnerable moments and on overwhelming days. It catches me off guard and makes me feel like a failure — like I’m not good enough. It takes away my self-confidence and lowers my self-worth.

And so I sink deeper into despair, thinking I should abolish my messy parts to live a happy, stress-free life.

Recently, I have come to realize that my happiness has nothing to do with my messiness. How messy I am right now doesn’t dictate how happy I can be. In fact, they can perfectly coexist.

Although I understand that life is messy and imperfect, I keep ignoring the fact that I am messy and imperfect in my own way too. Perfection will not protect me from self-judgment. I can…

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I’m not “Spiritual.” I just practice being a Good Person.

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