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LIFE LESSONS
Are You The Needy One In Your Circle Of Friends?
You might be sending them over the edge without even realizing it
I’m not a needy person, not even in the slightest sense of the word. I don’t crave validation, I don’t look to others to feed my happiness, and most times I feel like I don’t really need anyone.
I wasn’t always this way. In fact, I remember that while growing up, I was a very self-conscious, low-self-esteem kind of person. But that all fell by the wayside as I matured and went through some major life shit.
Now I honestly don’t care what others think of me or my needs.
Having said that, I’m also not a jerk. I understand that not everyone is as standalone as I am and I get that people have needs.
I try to be as compassionate as possible, but at the same time, some of the needs of others are so superficial. Maybe in their reality, it’s not superficial, but sometimes that’s how it comes across.
I once traveled with a really good friend whose needs far outweighed my ability to feed them. I think we only made it to day #3 in our trip before I had to tell her I was exhausted by her constant quest for validation from me.
