MEMOIR
Loyalty Will Tell You More Than Anything Else
It’s the trait that trumps all the others
I’m a single woman in her 40’s. Please, hold your applause.
No, disregard that, and by all means, applaud. I completely deserve it. If y’all had any idea the shady cast of individuals who have paraded into my life and sworn some sort of loyalty to me, only to mean none of it, you’d give me a standing ovation.
One of the first questions asked of us as singles is “what are the traits you’re looking for in a partner?” Dating apps, friends, potential dates, the UPS man (hey, Keith, thanks for handling with care); everyone wants to know what your green flags are before they offer their opinion.
Loyalty. Loyalty is the most important of the green flags, and I’ll tell you a few of the reasons why.
If you share any intimate detail of your life with someone, even something so mundane as the flavor of floss you use (team mint, y’all), you’ve given them ammunition. They may now fire when ready, and you get the displeasure of wearing one of those ugly ass orange vests until the inevitable sound of the flint being struck.
You’ve given them the ability to betray you. To tell your secrets, to twist your words into something weapon shaped, and you can…
