LIFE
The 360 Degree Social Experiment
When you’re on a date and you’re the problem
“You need to start dating again. Go out there, allow people into your life.”
I looked at the person giving me the advice. It was my 24-year-old Tinder-loving team member from Vietnam. Acting on management’s behalf, when I issued the space for a 360 degree feedback loop from every member on the team, regardless of rank, this was not part of the discourse I had in mind.
“You are aware that I am old enough to be your mother,” I looked up from my laptop and gave her a blank stare but cracked a warm smile.
“I read on TikTok that among the signs of loneliness is overworking, busyness, and harsh self-criticism.” My team member was as serious as a boa constrictor midway swallowing an antelope.
“Is that where folks turn to for life advice these days, TikTok? What a waste, all those years I spent at university.”
“And while you’re at it, try not to be so sarcastic. They might not get it.”
“But sarcasm is my love language.” This time, I was the one being serious.
“Try and be more affectionate. Smile and laugh a bit more.”
