& I’m Tired of Writing About Her
#RIPRowling is trending because J.K. Rowling has lobbed yet another attack on my beautiful and vulnerable community in her latest book. Attack after attack, I am tired of seeing her name pop up in the news each time the world has dared to stop talking about her, all while during BLM protests and COVID. Rowling is apparently incapable of not being in the news these days, and I am not here to convince anybody that she’s a transphobe.
Rowling is, unequivocally, a transphobic cisgender white mega-millionaire / or billionaire. None of that is a slant — it’s just the objective truth. Controversially, I fully stand by this assessment. However, I am not here to convince anybody that transphobia is wrong. Transphobia is, unequivocally, a bullshit hill to die on. I stand by that assessment and encourage transphobes to prove to me that transphobia is good for society.
As a trans woman living in Los Angeles, I am blessed. I have access to care, ample healthy coping mechanisms, and bear immense privilege that allows me to quickly look beyond the words that Rowling constantly shits out into the Twitterverse. I respond and continue to do so despite my annoyance because I have the privilege to do so.
But not all trans people are afforded these luxuries. Most are not. As such, I see Rowling’s attacks as violence against the trans community — especially trans women. There is a storm on the horizon, as Rowling has suggested, and it’s not just about how we care for trans kids; It’s a storm of Rowling’s creation, as she emboldens her hoard of feminism appropriating radical transphobes. Rowling and her cult seem to truly enjoy the pain of those in our community who are least protected from their monsoon of hate. That makes them bullies, not activists.
So, prove to me that Rowling’s hatred of us is justified. Prove to me that it’s not hate, as much as I’ve been asked to prove that transphobia is transphobic. Prove to me that trans women exhibit the stereotypes she suggests we do. Show me why I should bear the responsibility of any trans person who has ever lashed out at a transphobe for abusing them. Prove to me that depicting a cisgender crossdresser as a serial killer isn’t a form of violence against the trans community.
The burden of proof is no longer on me and my fellow trans and nonbinary siblings to show transphobes that transphobia, particularly TERFism, is painful and incredibly reductive. The burden of proof is not on trans people to prove to anybody that transphobia is transphobic — That burden is on transphobic assholes to prove that my community deserves to be attacked continuously, abused, slandered, mischaracterized, and hated for who we are. When I read some of the more ignorant comments on my essays and blogs, it often seems that I am expected to defend why I think J.K. Rowling is a transphobe, as though her actions throughout 2020 aren’t a red flag set on fire.
The thing is, TERFs are unreachable — but they comment on my stuff and earn me some money, so here. The honeypot is sticky.
In comments on pieces that aren’t even slightly about transphobes, I have people asking me to defend my community against TERF talking points as though I speak for every trans woman who has ever told a bigot to “suck her girldick.” I don’t — I don’t speak for anybody but myself. I am not the voice of my generation, and I don’t pretend to be. I am not Kanye.
I am merely a hyperlexic trans woman who has been hurt by Rowling’s debasing of my community. I use my writing to express myself, and that pisses transphobes off a LOT.
Am I shocked by Rowling’s latest bullshit? No. Not at all. Transphobia from huge public figures is par for the course, and I saw this storm on the horizon coming from the moment I read Rowling’s character, Pippa, in her Cormoran Strike series. As a trans girl coming into her own, Pippa’s transphobic characterization nearly escaped my attention because of how much that storyline was hit over the head with a brick. I saw the brick cloud coming from afar, ready to shit bricks all over my community. My roof is reinforced, but that’s not the case for a lot of my community. For those who don’t know how to weather these storms, Rowling’s words are a brick thrown through the window — often through the window (or bookshelf) of a child struggling with their gender identity.
This whole situation is tragic because Rowling could embrace trans kids, but instead, she foments fear and pushes misinformation about puberty blockers and organizations like Mermaids. She pushes her fake concern about trans men and muses on the apparent accessibility and ease of transition (ideas that are laughable to any trans guy I know.) She ignores pornography posted in the comments of children’s art, but can’t stand being called a transphobe. Well, if the shoe fits.
I’m tired of writing about J.K. Rowling. Why don’t I just not?
Because transphobia is bad.
Oops, did I offend anybody with my hot take?
Transphobia is transphobic.
And NOW I’m done writing this shit. I’m officially done trying to pour dirt over Rowling’s ever-deepening moral failings. Officially.