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Is Love Enough?
Is intellectual compatibility the key to a successful relationship?
A friend from my singles group recently met and married what she termed to be “the love of her life”. It was an unexpected and shocking decision to the rest of us- especially because we didn’t think them to be a match of intellect.
Is this proof that love has no boundaries?
Amidst our shifting cultural environment, to what extent does intellectual compatibility affect marital relationship?
In my mind, the institution of marriage is a great symbol of human culture. According to many researchers, it is one of the most important determinants for peace and well-being in society.
My friend says she’s only concerned with love — nothing else. But what about him? Doesn’t it have to go both ways for the theory to be valid?
Another friend has been married for 30+ years, built a family, an extended family. He is an intellectual, she is the complete opposite. He absolutely adores her.
In my opinion, the popular belief that opposites attract is overgeneralized. A large body of research points at the fact that marital outcomes are greatly affected by behavioral and intellectual issues which are being continuously shaped by these new age phenomena sweeping the world.
